My soon to be stepdaughter's mother is exposing her children to bad situations. She is asking them to lie about sexual behaviour. The children are 13, 9 and 6. The two oldest are from another marriage. The mother is bringing guys home as "friends" to spend the night. She leaves all the kids home while she gets drunk on a weekly basis. Her oldest has told people that she is scared of her mother. She does the laundry, cooks and takes care of the kids in fear that if she doesnt she will get into trouble. They are being exposed to sexual situations with mom and her "friends". Mom tells them (with no court order) that the more your dads pay, the more you can see them. If the dad wants to talk about getting an order she takes the kids for a few weeks and will not let the dads see or hear from them. If support is not paid before Friday she calls and makes threats of never letting the kids see their dads agian if they are going to be dead beat dads. She lets her kids hear her call their fathers dead beats, worthless son of ......'s. My stepdaughter has called crying to have daddy pay more so she can see us. The oldest has called Grandma saying she is sorry she has not called her back but her mom will not let her. She crys when she asks us not to tell her she called. We are working on a court order for visitation and support. As you all know it takes time. In the meantime the kids are being told they will never be around people like us (Im not sure why she thinks that Christian professionals that do not drink, smoke or do drugs with high community support are bad but she does). She also tells them that my daughter must be sexually molested by her father because her daughter said they played truth or dare and dared each other to jump across the beds like bunnies (again not sure how that was harmful...although I do not approve of that game in the first place). She makes the kids lie about where they go and who has been around them (ie...men...etc). What can we do (we as in myself, both fathers and all of our families) to help our kids from all of this???? Please help...

