My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California
I moved to another state a year ago to get away from my ex (we were never married) who was harassing, stalking, annoying, threatening, etc. Our relationship was dysfunctional from the start. He is on probation for Statutory Rape (me) and during our brief "relationship" he provided me with unlimited alcohol, marijuana and pain pills, getting me hooked on the last. I was clean during my pregnancy. I had a DVPO and a Criminal Protective Order against him, but the police never chose to enforce it. (The details don't apply to my question)
After consulting with my attorney, I moved out of state about 5 hours away when we had temporary orders. My ex has known I was there (the city only, not my address) and drove there to visit our daughter a few times in a public place. I have proof because he got a ticket and charges when he was there and other times I took pictures of them. Now I know the advice to move wasn't legally sound- but I have been there with my daughter for a year. I have a full time job, she is in a great childcare center, I have been going to counseling, AA and NA meetings and really turned my life around. I am the sole support for myself and my daughter as my ex pays no child support.
The problem is that our custody and visitation plan is not final. He has had one supervised visit monthly for three hours. I have always made sure my daughter is in California and has been available for his scheduled visit. I am willing to transport her and I realize I have to pay the cost since I moved. He is now asking for weekend overnight visits. Because my daughter is only a little over a year old I strongly believe that is not in her best interest. Additionally, he continues to use drugs and has not complied with his probation orders. I am extremely concerned for my daughter's well being if the visits are longer because his family members are the supervisors and I don't believe they are reliable.
In spite of all this, we are close to agreeing on final orders. Part of the orders grant me permission to relocate. I am concerned about a provision that his lawyer put in his proposal that states:
" The Petitioner/Mother shall not file for child custody or child visitation in the State of __(new state)_____ or any other State."
and
"The State of California, County of ________________, shall retain exclusive jurisdiction over child custody and child visitation."
one more
"There shall be reserved to the County of _____________, _______________ District Court, in addition to the jurisdiction specifically mentioned elsewhere in this judgement, the jurisdiction to supervise the payment of any obligation ordered paid and supervise the child custody and child visitation provisions and all other agreements contained herein."
Do any of these statements stop me from petitioning jurisdiction to be changed in the future? I plan to remain where I live so I don't want to sign an agreement that would forever bind me to California courts. I have asked my attorney, but I feel he has a vested interest in the case remaining in California and me continuing to pay him, so I'm just not sure.
I also don't want my ex to jump from a single 3 hour visit per month to two full days, or worse, overnights. How can I stop this? My attorney encouraged me to agree to the plan to get the relocation and have a final judgement for awhile.

