I think you really meant to say that he has two sons.
Not nice at all, but not relevant legally.His exe wife has stepped over our personal boundaries even from the beginning of our marriage. She made it very clear that "her exe had lots of girlfriends before me, and I would just be another girl" so therefore he didnt want me involved with her children. She has done everything she could to break us up.
That may very well be relevant.She's even mentally toying with her children's minds by basically making them think that their father loves me and my kids more than this. Its ridiculous.
That is seriously overstepping on your part. You should not be having that kind of discussion with her.Ive attempted to be rational with her and try to work things out but she is not rational.
That is dad being a good dad.The custody papers say hes to have the boys every other weekend, yet we have them almost every weekend, some school nights, all holidays and every summer.
That is standard. Child support is calculated for the year and then divided by twelve months so that the child support is consistent all year long. Otherwise, child support would be higher for the non-summer months.We take them all summer even though were only supposed to have them two weeks and she still wants child support on the months during the summer we have the boys.
Dad should not allow mom to get away with doing that.She will not even tell us and drop them off and we have actually been on our way to a date night and had to stay in.
Again, not nice on her part. The bad mouthing dad is legally relevant. The rest is not.We pay at least half on all sports they play (which is baseball, track, and football) and she still complains we do not do enough for the boys. She then makes the children hate their father because shes always bad mouthing him and me. She wants nothing more than to seperate us so my husband can be at her beck and call.
Again, this is serious overstepping on your part. Again, you should not be having these kinds of discussions with mom.Ive laid the line in the sand with her, but she says "I dont exist in her world"...Ive tried to explain to her that if we got along it would be better for the kids and what Ive felt shes doing to them mentally. She ius so selfish or blind she doesnt seem to care.
Based on the amount of overstepping that you are doing, the child may very well feel that you are the cause of everything being "awful".Shes taken the boys to a therapist and my step son said ever since his dads been married me to his life has been awful and its all my fault. I dont understand because Ive loved the boys, care and cook for them, do their laundry, drive them around, buy things for them, tried to bond with them. Ive been nothing but nice, however, I have rules in my home. its my understanding that before I came along their dad kind of let them do pretty much what they wanted. So I guess now parties over, and I'm the one to blame.
There is an easy solution to that. Stop overstepping and stop talking to her. You shouldn't be doing so anyway.She threatens that if I try to speak with her she will not let them come for visitations.
She cannot raise his child support. Only the courts can do that and only if the guidelines say that his support should be raised. It is VERY bad that she is involving the children that way.She threatens to raise his child support if we do not help with extras. Most of the time we do, but sometimes we just dont have extra. Then she tells him he's a sorry father. Then the boys start texting him that they hate him.
Step back, step out and let your husband deal with his children and their mother. Seriously, the amount of overstepping that you are doing can cause serious problems for your husband in court...as well as aggravation for you. You don't have any input on THEIR children, other than behind the scenes as a support to your husband.I am in love with my husband and I love his kids and mine, but I dont know what to do about the exe...or how much more of this abuse I can take from her and her kids verbally. Help! What are my rights as a step parent? Is she able to just block me out of the family like this and say I have no input on he kids, even when they are in my home. This week she blocked my number from their cell phones. There have been times they couldnt get a hold of their dad they have needed to call me to get them. I dont know what to do anymore.

