Had to Pick Up Kids from Intoxicated Wife

[RobinSC]

My question involves a marriage in the state of: South Carolina

I posted my ex wont let me move in her apartment complex, but now this happened. My wife left a month and a half ago.


Monday night at 11pm I get a call from my daughter saying that her and her brother want to come home. I ask why she tells me mommy left with her 22 year old son (not my biological son) and went drinking. A couple hours went by and they came back with a man in his 40's. They heard a loud sound outside her apartment on the stairs and looked outside to see their mom had just fallen and was staggering when she got back up. Her son ran through the door and into the bathroom and was throwing up all over the room. My wife and this man come in and again my wife falls in the kitchen, hits her head on the counter and has a huge welt on her forehead. My wife and the man then go straight to her bedroom and close the door. I was going to go over there and get them but I immediately thought I need a police escort and called for one. The officers met me there and told me to stay downstairs outside. About 15 minutes past and the two officers came down with my kids. They told me there would be a police report. So yesterday I went down and picked it up. It is not a long report but pretty detailed: It says they went to the door and my 11 year old son opened it and let them in. They went to my wife bedroom door, knocked and announced themselves. It says the door was opened and that my wife appeared to be "grossly intoxicated, to the point where she could barely stand up or walk without assistance", slurring her speech and very red bloodshot eyes and "she had a huge knot on her head" the officer asked how she got it and she said she fell earlier. The officers then state in the report "there was a man there that told them he was her boyfriend. The officer asked my wife if it was ok if I took the kids for the rest of the night, at that point this boyfriend says that he hadn't been drinking and that the kids were fine. The officer then advised him he had no say in the matter. My wife then said go ahead and let me take them. I took them home. She has not called to apologize to the kids or anything. What really irritate me is this strange man who the kids have never met is there with my kids basically alone because my wife and her son have basically passed out. My daughter is pretty tough emotionally and when she had come down to my car I could tell she had been crying as well as my son.
I called the family court and advised them I do not have an attorney. The lady I spoke with told me I could fill out a contempt of the temporary order we have because it states that neither of us are allowed to have anyone else around the kids that we are dating, etc.

Please advise me of what I should do. Should I still move to the apartments? Should I file something? If so what would you advise? Sorry but this is all new to me. My wife is definitely going through something and I am not exaggerating when I say it is not safe for the kids to be with her at this time. Also, I am assuming that since our temporary order states she gets them certain days and I do as well, that even though this happened I have to let her pick them up this Friday right? That is her next day to have them.

Thank you so much.


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My question involves a marriage in the state of: South Carolina

I posted my ex wont let me move in her apartment complex, but now this happened. My wife left a month and a half ago.


Monday night at 11pm I get a call from my daughter saying that her and her brother want to come home. I ask why she tells me mommy left with her 22 year old son (not my biological son) and went drinking. A couple hours went by and they came back with a man in his 40's. They heard a loud sound outside her apartment on the stairs and looked outside to see their mom had just fallen and was staggering when she got back up. Her son ran through the door and into the bathroom and was throwing up all over the room. My wife and this man come in and again my wife falls in the kitchen, hits her head on the counter and has a huge welt on her forehead. My wife and the man then go straight to her bedroom and close the door. I was going to go over there and get them but I immediately thought I need a police escort and called for one. The officers met me there and told me to stay downstairs outside. About 15 minutes past and the two officers came down with my kids. They told me there would be a police report. So yesterday I went down and picked it up. It is not a long report but pretty detailed: It says they went to the door and my 11 year old son opened it and let them in. They went to my wife bedroom door, knocked and announced themselves. It says the door was opened and that my wife appeared to be "grossly intoxicated, to the point where she could barely stand up or walk without assistance", slurring her speech and very red bloodshot eyes and "she had a huge knot on her head" the officer asked how she got it and she said she fell earlier. The officers then state in the report "there was a man there that told them he was her boyfriend. The officer asked my wife if it was ok if I took the kids for the rest of the night, at that point this boyfriend says that he hadn't been drinking and that the kids were fine. The officer then advised him he had no say in the matter. My wife then said go ahead and let me take them. I took them home. She has not called to apologize to the kids or anything. What really irritate me is this strange man who the kids have never met is there with my kids basically alone because my wife and her son have basically passed out. My daughter is pretty tough emotionally and when she had come down to my car I could tell she had been crying as well as my son.
I called the family court and advised them I do not have an attorney. The lady I spoke with told me I could fill out a contempt of the temporary order we have because it states that neither of us are allowed to have anyone else around the kids that we are dating, etc.

Please advise me of what I should do. Should I still move to the apartments? Should I file something? If so what would you advise? Sorry but this is all new to me. My wife is definitely going through something and I am not exaggerating when I say it is not safe for the kids to be with her at this time. Also, I am assuming that since our temporary order states she gets them certain days and I do as well, that even though this happened I have to let her pick them up this Friday right? That is her next day to have them.

Thank you so much.


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Yes, you have to obey the temporary order. Yes, you have to give them back to mom on Friday. This has nothing to do with whether or not you move into the apartment complex. If mom develops a pattern of this kind of bad judgment then it might mean something.