Hi everyone,

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

My situation is as follows: Me and my (now) wife have been together since late 2010. I've visited her here in the US several times over the past few years and she has been to my country (the Netherlands).

We got married last October (2013) with the intention of her moving to the Netherlands to finish school to get her college degree.
We met with an immigration lawyer who told us that it would be very hard to get back into the US if we wanted to.

I entered the US the 10th of October on the Visa Waiver Program and we got married the 19th of that month.
He told us that a red flag would be the fact that I entered the US with the intention of getting married.

Our intention was to move to the Netherlands after my visit here, but since we found out that's not a good idea, we decided to file the forms for AOS so I can stay here.

Will it still be a red flag if we explain it that way to the USCIS?

My VWP expires on the 7th and we have no realistic way of getting everything together before then, I have an appointment scheduled with a civil surgeon this week but I still have to get my vaccination records etc.

I've read online that being legally married to a USC gives me a 90 day grace period (in addition to the 90 day VWP stay). So for 180 days, is this true?

I'm sorry if this is confusing, thank you for your time!