
Quoting
Mr. Knowitall
Then you should talk to your lawyer.
If your ex- defaults, you can seek entry of a default then proceed with the remaining litigation of the case (assets, custody, etc.) If she appears and answers, she can file a counter-complaint if she chooses. And then, if you don't settle, you litigate the issues. In rare circumstances the other spouse may object that the proper grounds for divorce do not exist. As you were told when you posted, when you were instructed to identify your state, laws are different in each state.