One Night Stand with Married Woman Leads to Child

[mmmagique]

You should just lay low until someone takes you to court. (which I don't believe will happen.) Don't speak with her, don't write to her, don't do anything that has anything to do with her. She does not have your best interests at heart.

[distressedmom]

Devil's advocate here:

If OP waits and is found to be the father, he could potentially be hit with retroactive expenses. (depending on state law)

If OP is proactive and goes to court to prove he's not the father then he doesn't have to look over his shoulder any longer. If he is the father then he can request custody/visitation.

Best to talk to a board certified family law attorney.

[Dogmatique]

Yeap, I'm with distressedmom on this one

[mmmagique]

I'd just put a certain percentage of money aside every month and wait. I would not spend any money pursuing this because there were too many red flags in the way this woman handled this situation.

[distressedmom]

Can the father pursue paternity and child support through his state agency? Then he wouldn't incur a cost to find out if he's the father.

Then if he is determined to be the father, he can decide to pay an attorney for custody/visitation through a separate court action.

I agree about the flags, which is why it may be better to flush out the facts and put it to rest. He doesn't need to set aside money and wait to be served one day with papers.

[EA1070a]

In NC child support can be made retroactive to three years prior to date of filing.

In Robinson, the court states "Retroactive child support payments are only recoverable for the amounts actually expended on the child's behalf during the relevant period. Therefore, a party seeking retroactive child support must present sufficient evidence of past expenditures made on behalf of the child and evidence that such expenditures were reasonably necessary."

In ohio, it's retroactive to establishment of paternity.