My question involves a marriage in the state of: Minnesota
Title is wrong: sorry its
NO PROPERTY
NO KIDS
and possibly No contest (although I doubt it, she has it made here)
I need help, and havent a clue how to do this. Half my battle is won in the fact that I live in a no-fault state.
I have all the paper work needed anf filled out.
We have no kids or propterty, and what we do have, is very definitive on who it blongs to, when in doubt I'll just give it to her.
Another issue, is I live where I work (as a maintence repair). So leaving is pointless. I also recently picked up a 2nd job across the street (so again, location).
she has not worked since 2005 - she is a con-woman. I know I take most the blame for my situation, however I do not want to deal with it any further.
She does not clean, laundry cook or even be intimate - her reply to each of these of late is: she is not my maid, laundry or cook, and she is not my sex object. I work 2 jobs to cover what she needs, and she fights to claim my money is her money, thus why she does not need a job. What work she does do around the apartment is of her own leisure. When she makes money from odd jobs - some pay substatial amount, she squanders it. (example, in 2008 she won a 5digit settle ment and blew it all in a few months - not without a huge fight from me to at least pay a few bills - again her argument its her money, i cant tell her what to do with it)
I do not have the money for an attorney and the paper work to file is beyond any check that I make. I pay for all the bills. so I am left with very little.
the marriage is very destructive, and we live separate lives, I just need her out of the apratment. she does nothing but fight.
My big worry is that I will end up paying alimony, and that is not fair, as she had nothing when she came into the marriage, and decided not to work, for the duration of it. This is a short version. But she can work, just chooses not to, So I do not want to pay her a dime. she took every thing I own, including, first time in my life I had 2 repo's
How can I do this. Is it hopeless and I am to be stuck with her!? I dont want a separation, I want rid of her. she is a leech.
I have blogs, recordings, and notes that I take since 2005 logging our marrieage and her violent outbreaks as well.
please do not play the "ask a friend" or "ask a family memeber" as I have neither that I would want involved in this mess.
thanks for any suggestions.

