Used My Mom's Debit Card Without Permission

[Disagreeable]

Your reality check had bounced. We were adjusting the numbers for you.

My Mom no longer speaks to me and she has every right not to.
Thank you guys for all of the nasty comments and judgment as if I didn't feel shitty enough, really helps.

[samantha674]

**** off. Do you have anything better to do than hide behind your computer and harass strangers?

[cdwjava]

You asked if you could still be charged even if you arrange payments with the store. the answer is, "Yes."

The question should be WILL you be charged if they agree to allow you to make payments, and the answer to that is, "Probably not."

You stated that you did this in an act of desperation to feed your daughter. You went on to state that you spent $657. This is NOT a desperate act to feed the child as that amount would be far greater than what you'd need to feed yourself and the baby for several weeks. I could feed my family of six on that much for about three weeks on that. So, don't be shocked that you got some skeptical and even snide responses as your contention that this theft was just to feed your starving child is simply not true.

What you did was criminal. You are lucky that mom did not pursue charges and will be luckier, still, if the store doesn't. You should feel bad for what you did, and hopefully you won't do it again. But, understand that people WILL judge this action of yours - especially those close to you. And don't try to sugar coat it with a fable that it was to feed your child, because what you spent was much more than food.

I hope you get lucky and get to pay it off and not be charged. And, I hope that you learn from this and figure out a way to make ends meet within the law.

Good luck.

[samantha674]

I am sorry for what I did and I have learned from it. What I did WAS a crime and I acknowledge that, but so is cyber bullying which is exactly what some of these comments are. So before everyone goes around judging me and calling me a criminal maybe you should look at what you are doing.
Whats done is done and I will face whatever punishment I get. I simply came here for advice and all I've gotten is a bunch of BS.

[Who'sThatGuy]

I'm not sure about CA law, but even if the store decided not to pursue charges, would the DA still file them?

[cdwjava]

I am sorry for what I did and I have learned from it. What I did WAS a crime and I acknowledge that, but so is cyber bullying which is exactly what some of these comments are. So before everyone goes around judging me and calling me a criminal maybe you should look at what you are doing.
Whats done is done and I will face whatever punishment I get. I simply came here for advice and all I've gotten is a bunch of BS.

You've gotten both.

There was once a time in this country when people who committed acts of deviance (i.e. outside the norm of accepted behavior) they were shamed. This ostracization was beneficial in that it helped to act as an unofficial control on the members of society to behave within accepted norms. As we have gotten away from shame and into a pat-you-on-the-back-so-you-feel-good-about-yourself society, we have lost that informal control and have had to, instead, rely more heavily on the formal controls such as the police and the courts.

You may look at what has been said here as bullying. But, you might also look at it as similar to the shaming of olde. If you feel guilty, then perhaps you will not do it again. If all you feel is embarrassed and angry for being called out, then maybe you have come away with the wrong lesson.

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I'm not sure about CA law, but even if the store decided not to pursue charges, would the DA still file them?

COULD the DA here? Yes. But, the store has to report it to the police, first, and it does not appear that this has been done.

[Lehk]

My Mom no longer speaks to me and she has every right not to.
Thank you guys for all of the nasty comments and judgment as if I didn't feel shitty enough, really helps.

You chose to come in here asking for help trying to feed us a line of bullshit a mile long.

If you had told the truth about why you stole the card, or had left out the why altogether and just asked for help you probably would have gotten help instead of scorn.

And have fun asking the cops to arrest me for cyberbullying, when you talk to the officer make sure you explain you tried to tell us that you spent $600 on food for your kid and definitely not on freebase

[Disagreeable]

I agree with Lehk. I bet it was snowing in CA.

[Who'sThatGuy]

COULD the DA here? Yes. But, the store has to report it to the police, first, and it does not appear that this has been done.

My question involves criminal law for the state of: California
A few months ago in an act of desperation to feed my Daughter I used my Mom's debit card without her permission and was caught. My Mom didn't realize it was me at first and called the store. They ran the tapes and saw me on camera.
The other day a cop came to my house and questioned me and showed me the pictures. I admitted to what I did and he told me that I wouldn't be arrested and that it was up to the store to decide if they would press charges or not.
I called the person from the store that is working my case and told him that I wanted to make it right and explained my situation and why I did what I did. He told me that if I payed the store back in full that they would not press charges.
So my question is if I am able to pay the store back and they do not pursue charges can I still go to jail. I'm really scared. I don't want to lose my baby. Please help.

Seems to me that the police were already called?

[Disagreeable]

Seems to me that the police were already called?

If she bought hundred of dollars in "cut", she is probably not going to be around for Xmas.