My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Idaho.
I've been divorced for some years now and we have joint custody of our two boys, ages 10 and 8. My oldest has ADHD and takes medication to help him. In our divorce decree, it states that we BOTH have to have full medical insurance on them but he has never had it in the last 7 years that we've been apart. I've always had insurance on them. Yesterday, his wife told me that they were nearly out of medication for my son, so I made it a point to go to the pharmacy to refill the script. I had an accident at work and sliced my foot open the other day, so it is difficult for me to move around without pain. I texted my ex husband and asked him if it would be possible for him or his wife to come by my house to pick up their half of my son's medication. I give it to them free of charge, otherwise it would cost them about $150 a month just for their half. I sent the first text at around 2:30. I waited almost 3 hours before I texted again, reminding him that he needs to be on his meds continuously or it will be hurtful to him. Finally by about 6:30, I said that I'd just talk to our local Health and Welfare in the morning since he refuses to talk to me. He had his wife call me and attempt to get upset with me when my only concern is making sure my children have their medications.
My question is two-sided: 1) What can I do to make sure they're giving my son his medication as directed. It does say in the divorce decree that he is to give them their medications as prescribed by a doctor, but my son tells me regularly that they don't give him his meds over the weekend. And 2) Is there a way to force my ex husband, the custodial parent, to communicate with me about our children? I'm not asking how his day is, I'm trying to make sure my children have what they need. I'm tired of playing the "Go-Between" game, as I call it, because he just won't talk to me. As far as I know, step-parents do not have any legal rights to the step-children, meaning she has no legal right to sign legal documents for them or make non-emergency medical decisions for them. Is this correct? I just really want and need for both households to be on the same page for my children's mental well-being and he is not cooperating at all. Is there any way to force the issue legally?