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0303EHM
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: California
I reside in TX & ex lives in Midwest. We all used to live in CA & he chose to take a job in the Midwest because per him "that's what would make him happiest." A month after he moved, I decided for financial reasons & the best interest of our family, to move to TX which also put us closer to their father.
Ex was sporadically involved when we all lived in CA. He has documented PTSD, anger management, suicide threats etc. He has now not seen the kids since April & even forgot both kids birthdays. (Ages 3&4)
Calls are sporadic. He's been going into arrears since June too.
So besides him sending papers a week ago saying he's attempting to take full custody of the kids from me, (see my other post regarding absent father that now wants full custody) he'd sent a text a few weeks ago AND a letter from his attorney and it said "FYI, I'll be in your area from Nov 4th through the 6th and you WILL let me see the kids and have them with me at a hotel." (Ok, I've never denied him, so the way he went about this was really weird and accusatory)
I simply text back "ok sounds great...as it gets a little close, let's nail down pick up/drop off locations and times that work for both our schedules."
He never answered me.
Then he started inquiring what sizes in all clothing the kids wear and if he was on their emergency contacts at school (in other words, so he can pick up)
After a bunch of false accusations about me in his request for custody papers and his odd questions, my attorney and I both think he's going to attempt to take the kids. Last week, my attorney sent an agreement to his that if he wants to see the kids, he must pick up by 5pm today, they are not allowed to leave the state of TX and must be returned to me at their school no later than 5pm Wed the 6th. It was given to them last Wed. He hasn't signed it.
He then called me last night...first voicemail said "uh yeah hi, I'm flying in kinda late tomorrow night so you will née to drop the kids at my hotel at the airport at 9pm or after...then I leave REALLY early Wed so you'll need to drive back and pick them up at 5am...be sure to lack them pajamas etc and all their stuff"
(Ok, he never said he was flying and he wants me to drive 40mkna to drop them after they'll have been asleep an hour and a half and haven't seen him in almost 7 months?? Then he wants me to pick them up Wed at 5am?!? That's definitely not in the best interest of the kids and lets my forget I work too!
THEN...I get a SECOND message just 15mins later...he says "hey me again...I was just sitting here thinking and I said "did I just tell her 5am?" That's not what I meant. I meant, just give me the address to their school and ill actually just go drop them off around 1230pm or 1pm Wed...that way you can just pick them up there later at school. And I'll go to the airport."
(What?!? Anyone else smell anything fishy here?? Your flight either leaves early in the morning like you originally said, or it doesn't!)
Then a THIRD message last night "hey...I didnt hear from you yet to confirm you got my message...so yeah if you could call or text me anytime...like I said, you need to drop them off to me at 9pm and then ill return them to school Wed by 130 (wait, now it's 130????)
And he urges for the school's address again too...(I've told him in the past where they go to school)
So it's all very weird. I didn't respond to him due to the nature of our situation an I'm waiting for my attorney to call in about 15mins. She has told me if he won't sign that agreement by this morning, she doesn't want me releasing the kids to him based on the circumstances. And I trust her...he's never steered me wrong.
Thoughts? Advice? Any experience with a similar situation? I really am concerned for the health and safety of the kids and he doesn't sound like he's being on the up and up, which is the norm for him.