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    Default How Does Adultery Affect Custody

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Nevada

    I have been married for 8 years to a man whom which I fell out love with almost four years ago when I accused him of domestic violence, but not convicted (charges dropped to disturbing the peace). Due to some issues and not wanting to be alone I did not proceed with a divorce two years ago (he filed). I did not want a divorce mostly because of our kids and I wanted to keep all of my benefits from his job, medical mostly. One is my child and the other is both of ours. He was still much in love with me and we purchased a house. He now works out of state and I work nights at a nightclub. The kids stay home alone four nights out of the week. Our oldest is 14(mine) youngest 9(ours).

    For the last year and since he's been working out of state he comes home once a month and for holidays. He loves both the kids equally and is very dedicated to the home that we both pay for 50/50. He makes every attempt to make me fall in love again. He's not a bad man, I don't love him at all, and he's known this for quite some time. I began an affair 5 months ago. Someone from my workplace and I'm in love. I became pregnant 2 moths ago and had a miscarriage(with my boyfriends' baby). And because my current husband has given me no option, I have brought the man I'm in love with to our home for the last 5 months. I snuck him in (in the mornings) without the children noticing. One morning this month the oldest heard me making love in my bedroom. He called his father. He flew in from out of state demanding explanations and I told him everything. My son is disappointed in me. He told his father that he had suspicions of another man in the house since May. My youngest also told his father he had seen a man sleeping next to me in the mornings. I had no idea my youngest had seen us sleeping and I hope he didn't hear anything. I'm devastated and ashamed. My kids' father is pursuing a divorce and demands primary custody. I'm a fit mother and love my kids. I still want primary custody. He's been accused of domestic violence four years ago, no more since. He is a fit father also with a flexible work schedule. I have to work nights and sometimes during the day I have to leave my kids home alone. I'm scared and I want my kids. he should have understood I did not love him. It's somewhat his fault. I know he's doing this out of vengeance because I slept with another man in our home.

    There's got to be something I can do to keep my kids under my custody. He has to give me child support and money for proper care while I work. I also want to bring my boyfriend fully into my life. He can't just take my kids. He wants to fight custody and prove that I have mentally abused my children because of my behavior and that I have also placed their safety at risk because I brought a strange man to the home, according to him. I need some advice. Thank you.

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    Default Re: I've Made a Few Mistakes

    You're a married woman sneaking another man into the house and having loud sex with someone else with your children in the house....

    and you think you're a fit parent? Good luck to your soon to be ex husband. I hope his job allows him to change his schedule so he can take custody of his child. He won't have claim to yours, so you can sleep with whomever you want in front of him.

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    Default Re: I've Made a Few Mistakes

    I'm completely ashamed. He knew I was not in love. He kept me from living my life. I love my kids, and I do everything for them.

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    He has a domestic violence accusation

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    Default Re: I've Made a Few Mistakes

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    He kept me from living my life.
    How? He locked you in the closet? He held a gun to your head? You obviously were living some life because you were screwing some other dude in his house.

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    You're a married woman sneaking another man into the house and having loud sex with someone else with your children in the house....

    and you think you're a fit parent? Good luck to your soon to be ex husband. I hope his job allows him to change his schedule so he can take custody of his child. He won't have claim to yours, so you can sleep with whomever you want in front of him.

    Do you really think this is actually Mom posting?

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    Default Re: I've Made a Few Mistakes

    yes and I'm ashamed because I know it was completely wrong. I'm desperate to fight but I have no case according to most people. I'm meeting with a lawyer tomorrow

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    Default Re: I've Made a Few Mistakes

    Adultery.
    Admitting to leaving the kids home alone.
    It's all Dad's fault.

    Because y'know, everyone who posts their questions never ever lies or embellishes.

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    Default Re: I've Made a Few Mistakes

    Hmmm, "most people" might actually be correct in this instance.

    I find it abhorrent that you think it's his fault that you broke your vows. I'm assuming you didn't say "or until I don't love you anymore" as part of them?

    It's great you're sorry. Except that you really aren't, because your partly blaming him for what you did.

    He has a "domestic violence accusation" from four years ago? All that says is you pointed your finger at him then too.


    My first thought reading this was 'troll.' Hard to swallow the idea that you're actually real.

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    Do you really think this is actually Mom posting?
    Hey... I don't feel like unpacking my shoes. Anything could keep me entertained right about now

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    Don't make me bring out Spongebob

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