My question involves a child custody case from the State of: NC (or Georgia)
Brief history: Original custody set in the state of GA with the known fact that mother was stationed in NC and planned to get out of military and stay in NC. I (the NCP) was given EOW, summers (10 days after school let out to 10 days before school starts), and we rotated all major holidays and spring/fall breaks. I decided to move to NC (different city) to be closer to children and have been here since 2011 and am remarried.
Current situation: Mom (CP) is being separated from the Army due to medical disability and has recently informed me that she plans to move with the children to her boyfriend's house in Kansas. She states she doesn't know when it will happen and is based on when everything is approved. She said could be in 4 months or could be 2 years. I call BS on this and say it's more like 6 weeks to 4 months.
I have already notified her that I object to moving the girls to another state but that's as far as I've got. I am trying to find out from the attorney who worked the case in GA if this will be handled in GA or NC since we all live here now. I don't know what my options are at this point and am looking for some feedback. Is it possible to keep her from moving to another state with the girls? If not, what are the chances of convincing a court to change custody to me? (Both of our families are still in our hometown in GA (2.5 hours from where I live now) and I have family here as well. We have no connections to KS (other than her connection with her boyfriend). If neither of these are possible what can I request and actually stand to gain? Since she is opting to move them 1000 miles away, should I ask for her to be responsible for transportation to and from? Should I ask for more of summer vacation, 5 days after to 5 days before school? Do I ask for all spring breaks and rotate holidays such as Thanksgiving/Christmas?
As you can see I have a lot of questions and you have no idea how upset I am to think about them moving such a great distance away. I've done almost everything I can to maximize my time with them...never miss a weekend and have been known to drive 2.5 hours to see them, have dinner with them, attend something at school... If it were possible, I would move to KS myself but it isn't and I can't go around uprooting every time she moves.
That may have been too much information or not enough, feel free to let me know. I appreciate any and all help.
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Just a few more things:
We share Joint legal Custody and mother obviously has physical custody.
Nothing in our original paperwork has anything in regards to relocation (a huge error on my part). She assured me that she would not be moving but how I actually put faith in her statement is beyond me.
I asked her to provide me with where she would be moving to and she has politely refused that information until she receives her separation date. Of course she may know that I'll be researching the area and schools so that may be her reasoning.

