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Will reporting my son for a probation/parole violation be something he can recover from and eventually go on to become a productive member of society from? What is likey to happen if I report him? We live in VA. My son is 19 and currently living at home. He has three younger siblings.
Yesterday afternoon I caught my son smoking pot on my property. He is currently on probation having already served time (about 4 months) of a misdemeanor larceny conviction. He has had several arrests as a juvenile and a couple as an adult. If I report this violation to his PO I believe he will have to serve the remainder of his time (about 8 months).
I'm at a loss as to what action to take. We love him dearly, but have been dealing with his antisocial behavior since 2001 and have had it.
My choices are:
1. Do Nothing - This option will ensure that the behavior continues.
2. Report him to his PO - This will most likely result in his going to jail.
3. Kick him out of the house - This will probably result in an obituary entry in the local paper.
Choice 1 is really not an option. Of 2 and 3, it seems like 2 may actually be the one that ensures his survival (Life!) for the time he's incarcerated. And - he should also be clean.

