My question involves child support in the State of: Virginia
I have a question and not really sure who to ask or what to do and happened across your site so hoping someone can help me out.
My other half has a child (who's in late 20's) and his former employer received a letter from the state stating that he had fulfilled his obligation after he turned 18 (almost 10 years ago). About 3 years ago, around the time that he and I started dating, he received a notice stating that he owed a large sum of money for child support arrears.
He found it rather odd that he would get that, seeing as how his former employer received the letter stating it was fulfilled.
He does not have a copy of such letter as the employer had to fill out the paper and send it back.
He telephoned the child support department immediately to ask why he was receiving such notice and they stated that the custodial parent moved to a different county and when she moved they reopened the case.
Around the same time that he received that notice, he went to renew his driver's license (around his birthday) and they told him that he could not because it was now suspended for failure to pay child support!
I don't have children nor have I had to deal with such an issue before, but would the state reopen the case just simply because she moved? I would think that she would have had to reopen it, no?
When he & I started dating I had asked if he had contact with his child and he said that she would not let him, even though the child was now over the age of 18!
I contacted her and we actually became cordial. In one of our conversations she stated to me that she owed the IRS approximately the same amount of money that the state was claiming he owed for back child support. It could be coincidental but it seemed rather odd to me.
At any rate, he contacted the agency and they were supposed to mail him an itemized listing of all payments. That never happened. He contacted at least 3 different times and nothing. He didn't receive any further letters, notices, for almost a year. Then they started coming approximately 2 to 3 times a year since. Not quarterly or monthly, just randomly.
Some of my questions are, who would have reopened the case? If the former employer (which is no longer in business) received the letter stating he fulfilled the obligation, is it right for them to reopen the case? And what can we do to fix this situation?
He hasn't been able to find a job because of not having a license. I have inquired about a hardship license so that he would at least be able to accept one of the numerous jobs he has been offered but can't because of no license, and I was told that they do not give hardship license for persons who have had their license suspended due to child support.
An old neighbor of mine had gotten a DUI and she was able to get a hardship license to go back and forth to work. If they can give persons who could have possibly hurt or killed someone or themselves a hardship license, why would they not do it for someone who wants their life back?
As an outsider looking at both sides of the coin, I would say she had the case reopened because she needs help financially.
Just last year she wanted to send the child to live with us (we live in a different state) and one week before she did a 360 and said she didn't want the child coming because she would lose some sort of benefits.
I don't get it and I'm hoping someone can shed some light on this mess. I want both parties to be happy and am trying to avoid having to hire an attorney to sort this out as I really don't have the means financially to help him adjust this situation. Is that the only choice I have?
Thank you for letting me talk your ear off, I just don't know who else to turn to. Any advice is deeply appreciated.