You didn't tell us anything about the search warrant the police obtained for your home, or the scope of that warrant - they were searching for what?

Incidentally, searches work much more like a demolition than like a maid service. The general rule is that the police have no liability for damage caused during a search if the damage is reasonable - and when searching houses for drugs or firearms, which can be stashed inside furniture, inside walls, etc., a lot of damage can be done without the damage being deemed unreasonable. I'm not going to condone the practice, but as you were warned the search gives the police the opportunity to impose some "street justice". I don't know that you will be able to prove that the officer made the described threat; if you can, you can bring that to the attention of the civil rights lawyer you consult with the details of this case.

It was deeply foolish of you to lie to the police, and your lies and effort to keep the police from speaking with your wife undermine your claim that this was a little argument that you would not have expected to disturb the neighbors.
Quote Quoting Title 59 O.S. Sec. 1338. Use of telephone.
Each person arrested shall have an opportunity to use the telephone to call his attorney and bondsman before being placed in jail, or within six (6) hours thereafter.
The Oklahoma Courts have held that the violation of that statute does not affect the validity of an arrest or charge, Marquardt v. Webb, 545 P.2d 769, 771-72 (Okla.1976), although if productive of harm a violation of the statutory right might be ground for sustaining exceptions, Commonwealth v. Murray, 359 Mass. 541, 269 N.E.2d 641, 644-45, n. 2 (1971), and could potentially support a civil claim. Marquardt v. Webb, 545 P.2d 769 (Okla. 1976). The statute does not require that the phone call be free to you, although it would reasonably be inferred that you should be permitted a free phone call if you did not have the resources with which to make a call from the phone in the jail cell.