Ex is Going to School During His Visitation Time

[Dogmatique]

Just a quick question - who scheduled the extra curricular activities during Dad's time?

[mscoby]

Sorry Dogmatique but if you have children you know that there are no every other weekend activities. If the school offers an activity and my kids want to sign up for it, I'm not going to stop them because dad won't take them. Keep in mind, its not one specific activity. It's all. Being invovled in activities are an important part of growing up. Try raising kids that are not involved in activites. Some don't turn out so well. They will find an activity alright and it might not be a good one. I think the courts should recognize the importance of one after school activity of the kids choice and both parent should be forced to be equally involved. I know that is not how things work, just think it should be. Divorced or not, blended family or not. Parents need to take an interest in their kids life.

[Antigone]

Sorry Dogmatique but if you have children you know that there are no every other weekend activities. If the school offers an activity and my kids want to sign up for it, I'm not going to stop them because dad won't take them. Keep in mind, its not one specific activity. It's all. Being invovled in activities are an important part of growing up. Try raising kids that are not involved in activites. Some don't turn out so well. They will find an activity alright and it might not be a good one. I think the courts should recognize the importance of one after school activity of the kids choice and both parent should be forced to be equally involved. I know that is not how things work, just think it should be. Divorced or not, blended family or not. Parents need to take an interest in their kids life.

You and the kids have to deal with life's imperfections.

[Chede]

------it stated: "Both parents shall attempt, to the extent feasible, to allow the other parent to take the children rather than use baby-sitters ore hired help."
Did you take this out?
If not, then why wouldn't you just drop off the kids (or have him pick them up) when he is done with school (5pm) on the Saturdays?
Also, if the other parent does not want to take the kids to an activity or sport on their parenting time, that is their right (like it or not).

[Dogmatique]

Sorry Dogmatique but if you have children you know that there are no every other weekend activities. If the school offers an activity and my kids want to sign up for it, I'm not going to stop them because dad won't take them. Keep in mind, its not one specific activity. It's all. Being invovled in activities are an important part of growing up. Try raising kids that are not involved in activites. Some don't turn out so well. They will find an activity alright and it might not be a good one. I think the courts should recognize the importance of one after school activity of the kids choice and both parent should be forced to be equally involved. I know that is not how things work, just think it should be. Divorced or not, blended family or not. Parents need to take an interest in their kids life.

Welcome to the life of separated parents.

Dad is under absolutely no obligation to take the children to extra curriculars which YOU have scheduled on HIS time.

[mscoby]

Yes I copied that right out of the agreement. I would drop kids off when school is done, but he says no. His wife has no rights to them. I think I should get them if they are not with him.

[Dogmatique]

Yes I copied that right out of the agreement. I would drop kids off when school is done, but he says no. His wife has no rights to them. I think I should get them if they are not with him.

She only has rights conferred by Dad.

And don't forget - if you want ROFR it goes both ways. No leaving the kids with your parents, spouse or other person when YOU go anywhere.

Frankly I think this is a very petty argument. And once again, I think there's a better-than-decent chance the court will agree with me.

Oh, one other thing. "Babysitters", to many judges, specifically excludes family members including spouses.

[Lehk]

Sorry Dogmatique but if you have children you know that there are no every other weekend activities.

So you intentionally scheduled your children for activities that would take up part of dad's parenting time,putting him in a bad position of "making" the children miss their activities or lose out on some of his parenting time....

I wonder what the judge will think of that....

[cbg]

With respect to Dad's class - he has to take it when the class is offered. I've gone back to school as well, but if the class is scheduled for Monday at 6:00 I don't have the option of taking it Wednesday at 8:00.

[CourtClerk]

Sorry Dogmatique but if you have children you know that there are no every other weekend activities.

Pop Warner Football. It only requires you notifying the coach of the visitation schedule so they know they won't be there,
YMCA Basketball and Swim Teams. Same deal
Baseball through my city's Parks and Recreation... same deal
Tae Kwon Do at the studio down the street.... no problem

So, If I could as a single parent find all these activities for my son to do, why can't you?