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    My question involves a marriage in the state of: north carolina

    My husband and I have been married since 2007. We have a 5 yr old son together. Throughout the marriage he was abusive mentally and physically. He had multiple affairs but his latest affair lasted about 6 months and the girl ended up pregnant. She recently had the baby and is taking him for paternity and child support. I have tried and tried to make this marriage work but I can not trust him or even stand to be around him. I want to file or a divorce but I want some advice on what to ask for? Should I go for alimony? He has a very bad temper and one of the reasons I stayed so long is because I didn't want him alone with our son. I also have a 13 yr old from a previous relationship and he also feels my husband is a danger. Over the years when he has left is to go party and have affairs I have kept the threatening txt messages etc he has sent me. Will that prove he is literally crazy and is a danger when I file for this divorce and custody comes up? Thanks for reading. I've just never been through this before and am needing some insight

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    My question involves a marriage in the state of: north carolina

    My husband and I have been married since 2007. We have a 5 yr old son together. Throughout the marriage he was abusive mentally and physically. He had multiple affairs but his latest affair lasted about 6 months and the girl ended up pregnant. She recently had the baby and is taking him for paternity and child support. I have tried and tried to make this marriage work but I can not trust him or even stand to be around him. I want to file or a divorce but I want some advice on what to ask for? Should I go for alimony? He has a very bad temper and one of the reasons I stayed so long is because I didn't want him alone with our son. I also have a 13 yr old from a previous relationship and he also feels my husband is a danger. Over the years when he has left is to go party and have affairs I have kept the threatening txt messages etc he has sent me. Will that prove he is literally crazy and is a danger when I file for this divorce and custody comes up? Thanks for reading. I've just never been through this before and am needing some insight
    I suggest you find yourself a good divorce attorney and discuss the specifics of your case with them. You do realize that whatever you get will, your child will be second in line, right. The other baby's mother has first claim to any support from your husband.

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    one of the reasons I stayed so long is because I didn't want him alone with our son.
    You know that once you divorce, he will be alone with your (mutual) child

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    In response to " If I wanted babies by myself I should have created them by myself"

    The marriage was fine when we first started dating and got married. No abuse, no cheating. So yes we had a child together and I completely believe in co-parenting if the child would be safe in the other home and that would not be the case. A parent does have rights but I think when they are dangerous, alcoholics or drug addicts they should not be allowed to be alone with the child.

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    In response to " If I wanted babies by myself I should have created them by myself"

    The marriage was fine when we first started dating and got married. No abuse, no cheating. So yes we had a child together and I completely believe in co-parenting if the child would be safe in the other home and that would not be the case. A parent does have rights but I think when they are dangerous, alcoholics or drug addicts they should not be allowed to be alone with the child.
    Did, I miss something who told you that?

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    In response to " If I wanted babies by myself I should have created them by myself"

    The marriage was fine when we first started dating and got married. No abuse, no cheating. So yes we had a child together and I completely believe in co-parenting if the child would be safe in the other home and that would not be the case. A parent does have rights but I think when they are dangerous, alcoholics or drug addicts they should not be allowed to be alone with the child.
    Put your feelings back in your pocket. That's my signature, it is inserted on ALL of my posts.

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    If you wanted babies all to yourself, you should have created them by yourself. Until you do that, children have the right to BOTH parents, especially since you found them suitable to procreate with. Court clerk said this

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    Put your feelings back in your pocket. That's my signature, it is inserted on ALL of my posts.
    LOL... I did miss that! I don't usually look at the siggy. Buy hey, if the truth hurts...

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    LOL... I did miss that! I don't usually look at the siggy. Buy hey, if the truth hurts...
    No one looks at the siggy unless they're trying to find something to get defensive about. Since all the responses thus far made sense....

    attack the siggy. The siggy didn't do anything to anyone. Bullies.

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    If you wanted babies all to yourself, you should have created them by yourself. Until you do that, children have the right to BOTH parents, especially since you found them suitable to procreate with. Court clerk said this
    CourtClerk wrote that siggy something like 5 years ago... how about we address TODAY'S post? Oh, and I'll accept your apology in advance

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