My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Kansas
Hi, I'm writing because my husband and his ex wife divorced in 2005, they have two daughters, 13 and 15. He wasn't a very responsible parent back then, he had made mistakes, like drinking too much.
Through the past 8 years he would try calling to talk to his daughters and they were "not available" or at practice, or the mother just wouldn't answer her phone. He lost his job in 2009 and has been out of work over the past 4 yrs with the exception of a side job here and there. We have been married for a year now and he is getting back on his feet and becoming responsible.
I have told him that it is very important to be pro-active and send cards and letters and try to call his girls, etc... He thinks it is all falling on deaf ears but I told him it didn't matter, we need to keep trying. So we have sent them Christmas gifts, birthday gifts, etc. Still he is unable to reach them. From what I've heard through his family that are in contact with them, (who by the way, don't want to get involved) the girls think their dad doesn't care and chose the bottle over them. Which, from what I understand, that was true in the beginning, but definitely not the case now.
I have looked over all his divorce papers and he was granted 3 wks in the summer and two phone calls a week. Which neither one have been done. (we live in another state)
I did see that he was ordered to go to a DivorceWorks Seminar and file the certificate with the court, which he didn't do. Now he is willing to get whatever taken care of that has to be done. I did a little research on my own and since we live in another state, I need to know if he can take this class here in our state or online? And if so, how do we find out if it would be acceptable to the court?
Then after all that is done, we need to file something requesting contact with the girls and that the mother has intercepted all forms of contact. Since the girls are teens now, we would assume they have cell phones, and the mother blocked us both from their facebook accounts, so we can't even message them on there.
It is just really ridiculous. I've written really nice letters to the mom begging her to give us a chance, that things are different and please tell me what we need to do to make this right. No response.
We don't have money for an attorney, so any steps we take will be on our own.
Thank you.

