Ordered Not to Be Around My Child - Can She Run Away to Live With Me

[Antigone]

Translation: "Why won't anyone tell me what I want to hear, instead of giving me legally accurate information? You're all a bunch of meanie-poopie-heads!"

Is that about right?

Truthfully? We don't know you, don't need to know you, and really don't actually care about you. All we need to know is the information you gave us. That information is that the courts stripped you of your parental rights and issued an order requiring that you not be together.

Legally, you do not have a daughter. (Biologically, sure, but not legally.) Your rights were terminated, so legally you are a stranger to this child and if she runs away to be with you, you WILL find yourself in water of the hottest sort, to wit:



...and probably harboring a runaway to top it off.

It doesn't matter what she wants. Of course she's emotional. She's a teenager, it's what they do. That's pretty much why we have a legal age of majority - teenagers don't really think rationally until their hormones settle down. You claim to care about this girl, so BE THE DAMNED GROWNUP. Put your foot down, tell her NO, and let her be mad.

Every answer you have received here has been legally correct. If you're going to insist on throwing a fit because you don't like what you've been told, go pay an attorney to tell you the same things. Some people only value what they pay for, it seems.

We definitely need a "like" button!

[mmmagique]

I care, OP. I am sorry you and your daughter are going through this.
I think the only thing you can do right now, is to get an attorney to try to get some sort of visitation...which may or may not (probably not) lead to some sort of custody in the future.
The good news is she is with someone who cares about her, and someone you trust.
Just keep letting her know that you're there for her, and that you care, but that you have to follow the law. It'll all work out for the best.

[Disagreeable]

My bad for the wording. I AM ALLOWED TO BE AROUND HER FOR VISITATION JUST NOT LIVING WITH ME RIGHT NOW!

If you were not so quick to judge everyone on this website, maybe people would actually listen to you.

How exactly would you suggest we get information, if not from the person presenting it?

[Dogmatique]

If Mom's rights were actually terminated, she doesn't have standing to sue for visitation.

[PandorasBox]

Know this...if your daughter runs away....she may end up in Juvenile Detention.....

I would speak to a local lawyer about the custody issue. That is your best bet.

[Mr. Knowitall]

Ok, we tried to get her to live with my sister. They wouldn't even give that a second thought.

Was that a "Yes, dad is about to go to prison"?

If protective services says they'll consider the placement of the child with a relative, dad needs to look for a relative. Unfortunately for your family, their legal relationship with the child was severed when your parental rights were terminated. Your sister can try to determine if she would be considered as a placement if, for example, she became a licensed foster parent.