My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Washington
I am currently the custodial parent of my 4 and 6 year old sons. I have them during the week and the 3rd weekend of each month. Summer vacation is split 50/50 and holidays rotate. What I would like is for my ex to have them 2 weekends a month and 2 weeks during summer.
Both children will be in school next year and they want to participate in sports and other activities. My ex lives 2 hours away and I was just told she is going to move an addition 1 from there. With her living 3 hours away the children would not be able to do these activities. My oldest was in kindergarten last year and she did not attend any school events and would not drive the distance to bring them. She is constantly moving and this next move will be the 4th in a year and a half. So who knows where is will decide to go next.
My ex also lives with her boyfriend. I feel it is in the best interest of the children to spend limited time with him. He watches the kids while she is at work. He is contentiously telling the boys things like their father is a child abuser. My 4 year old comes home telling me he says things like he has to go to a special school for retarded kids, that no one loves him not even his grandparents and that he is going to rub his nose in pee if he pees on the toilet seat again. He also threw my youngest onto a bed last summer and split his head open on the foot board and he had to receive 3 staples. The boyfriend claims it was an accident but whenever they are there for a longer period of time they always come home with injuries mostly because they don’t pay attention to what the kids are doing and lets them run wild. Whenever I go to my ex with concerns she automatically sides with her boyfriend and says that both of the boys are lying. It is impossible to talk to her about anything.
The children only spend about 50% of the time with my ex when visiting her because of her work schedule. The other 50% of the time is spent with her boyfriend and his 2 daughters in their 2 bedroom apartment. I am remarried and my wife stays at home with the boys. They call her mom and absolutely adore her. They often beg and cry when they have to go with their mother and it breaks my heart.
I want a stable and loving environment for my kids to grow up in. I want their lives to be as normal as possible and have them be able to participate in all of the same activities as their classmates. My question is do you think that I could get the time I am hoping for? From what I have read it is very hard to change visitation once it is in place unless there is physical abuse present or something just as serve happening.

