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    Default What Happens to Chlld Support if You Reconcile

    My question involves child support in the State of: California

    Hi,

    I posted a little while back with some child support questions. My ex-boyfriend and I had a baby in April, after breaking up near the end of my unplanned pregnancy. I filed for child support on 4/18. He and I met at DCSS on 6/4 to take care of some paperwork; when we were there, the caseworker said, "is there any chance that you will get back together?" We were both caught off guard by the question, looked at each other, shrugged, then laughed and said no.

    A month later ... and we're talking reconciliation. We've both realized that we had a really great relationship pre-baby and we both want it back. A default judgement is to be entered on 7/5 against him (he did not file his response; I knew he wouldn't... truthfully, I don't think he has even read the paperwork).

    He wants me to "call and cancel the child support order", even though we are not living together and the future remains a little uncertain. I told him I won't, until I feel a little more secure in where our lives are headed as a couple. I wouldn't consider us to be reconciled at this point; we're talking and working on things. I don't want to do anything drastic, and no, I do not fully trust him yet.

    My questions are:

    If we reconcile, what impact does our reconciliation have on child support? Does the support have to be modified? We will not (ever) marry. We are both divorced and neither of us has any desire to legally commit to another person.

    We are not currently living together. He has 0% visitation, which of course impacts his obligation. If we eventually live together, then do things change? I'm not opposed, but curious.

    Is it inappropriate or wrong of me to not stop this process when I'm not comfortable doing so?

    Why did the caseworker ask if we will get back together? I guess that's why I'm asking all this; I was surprised she asked. I didn't think it mattered unless we live together.

    What happens when the default judgement is entered? They sent me a letter recently saying that "we have verified the information you provided and taken appropriate action" - what does this mean? I left a message for the caseworker asking about that one but haven't heard back and figured I'd throw it out there.

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    Default Re: California - What Happens if You Reconcile

    Here's my advice - and I honestly think this will protect all of you.

    File in court for child support and get a custody/visitation order in place. If you move in together? Great! He pays, it comes into the same household, win/win.

    If the relationship fails? You're all protected by enforceable court orders.

    (Bear in mind this is based purely on this thread - I haven't yet checked your post hx)

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