My question involves a marriage in the state of: NH
-Wife announces wish for divorce on the 2nd. Says there is no chance. I say lets try
-On 1st, wonderful day filled with love and kissing and holding hands etc.
-Moves out on 3rd, informs me she already split savings account in half, subtracting from my half money I used to purchase repairs on my car.
Note: My car was purchased with a $15,000 inheritance of mine, and $8,000 loan in her name. Car is in her name, I have paid all payments and repairs, insurance out of my own pocket except for noted savings withdrawal.
-4th through 7th- I tried everything in my power to have her speak to me about this. She repeatedly ignores me. I sent tons of texts. I was really really drinking heavily. All messages of me loving her and wanting her back, etc
8th- I drink a remarkable amount, and start to have visions of suicide....I proceeded to call and call, left a serious of voicemails telling her goodbye. Never saying anything of harm.
-9th, I get served a restraining order based on fabrication of things I said and the fact I own guns....
-23rd, hearing. She dismisses order. Informs the court she has filed for divorce on the 19th. First I'd heard.
-24th, I call the court to inquire if this is true, they said yes and I will be receiving a "ten day letter" informing me I can go pick the documents up.
Note: I have yet to receive this letter.
She has told me to save thousands and just sign the paper. I understand in NH, if one person wants a divorce, it will happen under irreconcilable differences pretty much no matter what. I am that guy who doesnt want this divorce. She contacted me and asked when I'll have the money to pay the loan off and transfer ownership.
I am seeing some inconsistencies in her processes. If my car, in her name, is considered a marital assets, I don't think she should have transferred the extra funds out of the bank. I have applied for legal help in NH, because I also believe because of the inheritance, I may be able to claim that $15,000 from the divorce and give her the car. Maybe I could even get the car straight up, and leave her responsible for loan?
My main question is I need to know how much time I have to figure this out. Is there anything I can do to buy time and postpone the inevitable? My health insurance is also in her name and I am under the care of a psychiatrist and psychologist. I know that letter I haven't gotten would give me 10 days to pick up papers, but I am also unsure if that is business days or total days.
Once I get served via sheriff or certified mail, what kind of timeline am I looking at? Could I not show up at all, her get a default judgement, and put in a motion for a hearing? I just need some time. And honestly, all the cold, selfish, heartless behavior has made me want to drag this out! (Not typically a vindictive person, but man, this pain)
Thanks to anyone who might have pointers or insight!
Ps: the best diet? Divorce diet. I've lost 30 pounds!