My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Michigan
I have never posted on a board before, but I am financially drained from my ex taking me back to court that I cannot even afford to call an attorney to answer them for me. Here is my list of questions:
1- my ex is putting our kids in horseback riding lessons (despite the fact we agreed in co-parenting therapy to not enroll them in things they do not want to do and they do not want to do this). Last year they were taking lessons for the first time and for some odd reason they were riding bareback!!! So unsafe. Our son fell off a horse, hit his head and then the horse stepped on his foot, fracturing it. Ex chose not to take him to the hospital instead choosing to still leave the next day for a weekend away with the kids. While they were gone our son complained about his foot hurting so bad from all of the walking that 4 days after the incident they took him to the ER while on vacation. I was not notified of ANY of this until 6 days after the incident. We have joint legal custody. Ex just gave me basics, not diagnosis or anything. I had to call eveyr hospital in that area, fax over my divorce papers to every one as well just to find out if my son was seen there. I found the hospital and they faxed my Doctors office the info. THe next day I got the kids back for my half of the summer. I also have sole physical custody. Ex has every other weekend and 3 hours one night a week. We found out at the Doctor that since he was not treated right away and proceeded to them walk al over a large town for 3 days before being seen his fracture was bad, but untreatable at that point. It was also noted he should seek immediate help from an orthopediac surgeon, none of that I was told by my ex. Fast forward to this year. His letter for his summer plans with them includes these same lessons. The kids do not want to go, our son is scared. In fact, his foot still has so many problems he was seen as recently as this past March for pain. He is 12 years old. He knows what he wants to do and not do. I was led to believe last year these lessons were with a professional at a ranch. I just found out from the letter he wrote that it is just a friend of his giving these lessons. It is not a professional insured ranch. I believe it is dangerous. Do I have the write to fight this???
Also, ex is taking the children on vacation during his half of the summer. Our order states:
During extended summer parenting time, the parent who is not exercising extended parenting time shall have regularly scheduled weeknight and alternating weekend parenting time provided that the child has no out-of-town vacation travel plans. If out-of-town vacation plans prohibit the other parent from exercising their alternating weekend parenting time, make-up parenting time must be provided. Any out-of-town vacation plans and make-up parenting time, if applicable, should be confirmed between both parents, in writing, with a copy to the Friend of the Court no later than May 1 of each year.
First off I am pissed because he is taking them during one of my weekends, offering make up time of course. It was a weekend my daughter was in a wedding!! I was told I have no say in this. But my questions is it does not state when I have make up time, is it assume that since it is a weekend I can pick any weekend during the year that he normally has them (minus of course holidays, etc...)?
Also, He is requesting that I allow him to take the kids to his company picnic, on a weekday, during my half of the summer. He did not request to switch days with me, just that he wants them for this 7-8 hour picnic. He has done NOTHING to work me me on anything...I mean nothing at all. I cannot stress that enough. Even our co-parenting therapist says ex's anger and unwillingness to compromise on anything is resulting in co-parenting not working. Do I let the kids go? I am not a petty parent, but seriosuly he refused to allow me to have them for a 2 hour period last summer, on his night (in exchange for an entire Saturday) for dinner with my uncle who was in town. I told him that he should remember that when it comes time for his company picnic...oh and here we are. He just says no to everythign I ask him, because he knows it hurts me.
Lastly, due to the unwillingness to co-parent with me do I request sole legal custody? He has refused to agree to allow our children to seek therapy (the therapist saw them to diagnose them and said they suffer from emotional abuse from their dad). This therapist also was just voted the best therapist in our county and the 2 surrounding counties!! I had to take ex to court to fight that and I won. He fought me on braces for our son, speech therapy for our daughter, and the list goes on and on. Research shows that when parents can't co-parent one should have all say in matters which they cannot agree upon.
Thank you for your help!!!