My question involves court procedures for the state of: New York

This is for Broome County Support Court.

I will try to keep this short and easy to understand.

I am paying alimony to my ex-wife which ends at the end of this May, and I am to pay child support along with 75% of out of pocket medical and daycare costs. Naturally I am not happy about paying alimony. But as far as my child support goes I have no problems in paying these bills and even instructed my lawyer not to oppose any of it during the divorce. He is my son and he is my responsibility and I am more than glad to pay.

She informed me last fall that she had a man living with her for 2 months. I looked up the alimony laws and found DRL 248. So I filed to have the alimony dropped. How I read it is plain and simple. The lesser moneied spouse can lose the support in this event. And they were a couple not just roomates. They bought a car together, and etc. The whole deal.

In turn she filed that I didn't pay my share of the medical bills, daycare costs, and attorney's fees. In regards to the medical bills I had copies of the checks AND copies of the reciepts from the various doctors with account numbers on all of them. She had no proof that she paid anything at all. The babysitter thing is a bit more complicated. She hired an expensive private nanny off the books (and she stated it was off the books in court). I didn't want any part of it, so I told her I was going to pay her 75% (what the divorce settlement orders stated) of a fully licensed and legal daycare. I basically took the position that I'm going to follow the letter of the law and not be involved in funny business.

I showed the judge the law(DRL 248) and told her how I understood it. I felt I did a good job in court. I showed the receipts. I showed the tax codes for household employees. Everything her lawyer brought up I had copies of checks/receipts to counter him with. I had everything to counter her lawyer.

The judge ruled in her favor. And the judge, believe it or not, actually wrote in the decision that she (my ex) provided no proof of her statements or payments to these medical services. And the judge ordered that I also have to pay her attorney's fees.

How can a judge rule as she did? I don't know where I went wrong. I had the reciepts, the law in my favor. I don't want to "toot my own horn", but I did a really good job in that court room. I researched everything. I looked at every angle that wouldn't help me.

The only thing that keeps standing out is that she interned there, and now works there as a cps (child protective services) employee. Am I right in thinking there is a clear conflict of interests?

I sure hope someone can help me. I'm lost. This is a crushing feeling to know that I absolutely won and to be told to pay these bills again. To her directly. I already paid the doctors my share. I am extremely frustrated and totally disappointed in this decision. I feel like I made a mistake in paying these bills and even bothering going to court. I could have worked that day. I would rather have worked, I like my job.

Feel free to ask me any questions. I will be talking to the attorney that I used for my divorce, but I really hope that someone else can help me as well. I can't afford a lawyer anymore, but being labelled a "deadbeat dad" is a horrible feeling. Especially when I know for an absolute fact that I won and that I am NOT a deadbeat Dad.