First, there's no "us" - there's only the client. If you're trying to insinuate yourself into the case and the lawyer is giving you the brush-off, it's reasonable to infer that it's because you have no role to play - and his communication with you would not be privileged.

Second, most of the time when a friend of the client latches onto something they're sure is really, really important and is going to convince the probation officer and court that the defendant really shouldn't go to jail, they're simply wrong - they don't understand the facts, law, or issues before the court. We can't comment specifically, as you have chosen not to share any relevant facts with us such that we could address whatever it is that you believe the lawyer is ignoring.

Third, I'm not sure why people imagine that if a defense lawyer gets along with a prosecutor it means they won't be effective when representing their clients, as it is simply not true. It's much more often the lawyer who doesn't get along with the prosecutor that one needs to be concerned about.

Fourth, if the defendant is looking at seven months of incarceration for missing a single appointment with his probation officer due to confusion about a transfer of probation between counties, there's a lot more in the history of this case than you've shared with us.