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    Default Re: Juvenile petty theft - parent in need of help

    Panther 10758, nariya and PaulE-
    Thanks for the responces!

    Nariya, CASA sounds like a bit much for a 15 yr old first time theft that was caught and is very scared that she messed up her life to please a friend (who is no friend in my opinion!)

    PaulE-OK, now 602pc makes sense. I told her she will never go back to that store anyway after the way they "got happy" over her misfortune. By the way, I have spent ~$1500.00 in the last year at THIS SAME Store which is part of my heartburn with them even though they were doing their job.

    I plan on asking for community service, a diverson program, etc. And, she will be signing up for the local police explorer program ASAP!

    It's handled thru a referee at the juvenile traffic division, my understanding is that a DA is not involved. If she has to plead, I'm thinking no contest is the best route in this case but I'm not sure which is why I'm hoping to locate an attorney on this forum for advice.

    Panther 10758-You sound like a nice person (as I am) who hates thieft's (which I also do, REALLY!). Glad to hear about the dressing rooms! I was going to have to start posing!
    Believe me, my daughter has lost a whole lot with this show of stupidity! A car at 16~~not anymore. Mall alone~~When she's 25, maybe... She will not be at the opening of a new jewelry line that we planned to attend. Her friend will not go with us to Palm Springs this weekend. Her XMas gifts will be my paying all the fees that go along with this stupidity. She is use to lots of gifts. No new "7" jeans at $150.00, no new jeans at all until next year. etc., etc. I know how to punish her and believe me I already have started. My heartburn is the legal system damaging any child's life because she is still a child (just turned 15), and the legel system is full of flaws and if one of its flaws is to take away hope for a good future from a 15 yr old then I do not agree with that part of the law. It's just like "kicking a kid out of school because they are failing to learn", its not fair but its done often. Look at the numbers of kids starting high school, and kids finishing high school because of some very flawed rules that discourage kids. And, kids they are.....

    What do this LC jobs pay? Are these folks educated? My daughter says they were asking her how to spell for the report against her....Now that is ironic...
    I really do believe race was a factor and if you are in CA then you might have felt the tension between hispanics and "others" since this Mexico stuff started. We are not Mexican, but folks think all "might be hispanic's" are Mexican. Also very sad.

    Again, I sincerely thank you for your feedback~even the stuff I disagree with you on!

    Bigerror

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    Lightbulb Re: Juvenile petty theft - parent in need of help

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    ....... My heartburn is the legal system damaging any child's life because she is still a child (just turned 15), and the legel system is full of flaws and if one of its flaws is to take away hope for a good future from a 15 yr old then I do not agree with that part of the law......
    All the other peripheral issues aside, the basic one is that your daughter STOLE! SHE is the one who is responsible for "damaging" her life, not the legal system! Your daughter's lapse of proper judgement is the integral element to taking "away hope for a good future". If it's anyone's fault for how your precious 15 year old, who can't go to the 'jewelry showing' (sniff, sniff) now, it's her own.....and maybe yours too!

    I let a parent in my apprehension room ONCE! He decided that he was leaving with his child immediately after I'd let him in....I ended up with 5 stitches, dad ended up in the ICU for 2 days and $50K bond for felonious assault, and, his kid's charges were upgraded to felonies. She was also 15.

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    Default Re: Juvenile petty theft - parent in need of help

    I had a similar incident when a parent took child before I had completed paperwork. I worked in a mall store with a PD sub station I followd parent and child and into waiting PD's arms he advised parent to allow me to complete my paperwork or parent would be charged with abstruction! Its parents like this who sit and wonder when their child becomes a career criminal. From that day on when a parent started to get out hand I asked them to leave before I radio PD. I also got into habit of NOT call parents to notify until my paperwork was done!

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    Mr Souper....

    Your right it is my fault that she thought that being so "perfect" and "having it all" was an insult to her friends, and decided to show them in this very bad manner that she wasn't that different from their ghetto ways. We live in a bad area because I opted to take care of my dieing elderly parents and needed to live close. Then my other child became handicapped after being given "baby shots", and we could not move or we would lose that child's services. So, my "precious baby" has become it seems a victim of her environment. She had about $60.00 in her $150.00 jeans pocket! So, who can I blame but myself but I don't regret taking care of my parents. In hindsight, I would of bought my house a mile from them in the "other direction" away from the "lowlifes".
    My child will prevail in life, I am confident of that! And, if I were in that room with you, I would of wanted an officer of the law with me because you sound scary. You sound like a person that hates life and gets excited by other's misfortunes. That is very sad, and I hope you do not have children or in the event you do, that they were smart enough to leave home as soon as they could. I hope you have someone to help you bath, wipe, etc., if you should ever have the need because you probably wouldn't fare well in one of those homes.....

    BigError yes, Mean no....

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    Default Re: Juvenile petty theft - parent in need of help

    Having an officer present is good idea for both sides and for reasons my story states. Far as soups mean streak (aledged) even if true if theft had not occurred there would be no oppurtunity to be mean!? If you capture a buglar in your home do you offer him coffee and conversation before Police arrive? Now am I suggesting or even advocating being mean or disrespectful to subjects no I am not. Where I know soups I have not beeen prsent during any of his arrests! Each officer has his/her own style and I have been presnt with those who choose the "Bad cop" approach. Even though it may not meet your approval or mine for treatment this falls on subject! Why should arrest, detainment and even jail time be pleasant?! As a Father if my child was mistreated but not abuse or denied his rights would I be upset? Answer NO because the more unpleasant the expereince the more he will remember it and not repeat action. Not all LP act as soups describes in fact soups doesnt even act that way for each arrest. We can agree or disagree on appraoches but bottom line is if subject had not stole there would be no inicident!

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    Your baby is your baby... it is natural to want to protect her.

    Shoplifting is probably a .5 on the 1-10 scale of criminal behavior. She is not the first and she certainly won't be the last to have done this... Today's world is one that is focused on materialism and lust for goods, and it can be hard to look away. Unfortunately, the courts don't always see this though... So it is up to you to be there to support her through this ordeal. It makes no sense in my mind to throw a normally upstanding young person to the dogs in order to somehow "LEARN HER LESSON" when the stress and trauma of getting caught is unlikely to be a forgettable experience.

    Good luck...

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    Thanx for the 'first', I've never been called "mean" before. Or is it just because I'm unsympathetic to your 'cause' that you toss a label on me. Sorry Mom, I call 'em as I see 'em. I'm a realist! AND, I can proudly say that I have NEVER mistreated a shoplifter. Me and my staff, among other things, see shoplifters as job security, therefore, we're glad to see 'em.
    One more thing, I wouldn't blame the "world" for your daughter's materialistic ways....in almost every post you've made mention of something that lays the blame elsewhere, like the person you see in the mirror.

    A 15 year old in $150 jeans........puhhhhleeeeze!

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