My question involves "motion to modify" and "contempt of court." My divorce was finalized in June of 2008 and my ex just filed a motion to modify in February 2013. He just recently retired from the military and I was awarded a share of his retirement at the time of our divorce, it also included in the divorce judgment of dividing military pay, the agreement and the divorce decree that "The member is ORDERED to make the Former Spouse the beneficiary of the Member’s United States Army survivor benefit annuity and I am currently receiving survivor benefits. He is trying to end my right to receive survivor benefits by claiming his attorney and he were confused and misunderstood the implication of this stipulation. He wants to end my survivor benefits because he is remarried and there is a cost share divided on the % of retirement received. I don't think he has a legal leg to stand on regarding his motion to modify. The real problem is that he is deducting his cost share of the survivor benefit program from my spousal/child support before his motion to modify has even been heard or ruled on and therefore directly defying a court order in regards to spousal/child support payments. Should I wait until the motion to modify has been ruled on and then proceed with a contempt of court? The other problems is we both live in different states from where our divorce was finalized and I'm wondering if I can file without an attorney?

