The problem is that my child is only 8 months old and he does not know his father because he doesn't come around enough. How is it fair to my son that he only has the RIGHT to visitation but doesn't have to do it, but when he feels like it HAVE to let my son go. If he is not acting in the best interests of our child then I should have a right to say no. Why should he be allowed to be a parent when he feels like it, but I am trying to be a responsible parent and know that that's not going to be okay for him.
What if he doesn't bring him back? What about the strangers watching my child while he goes out with friends or sleeping in the same house as him? Why is it fair that he can not see him and pop up whenever he has something to prove and expect to take a child that doesn't know him across state lines without his mother? When he has already hidden him from me TWICE since this plan has come into effect. Why is it okay for him to make my life hell and disappear for a month then take the child that's with me EVERY day to stay with him (who is a stranger) and his friends and their stranger parents and friends. And because he would be taking my four days as well.
Why can he be held in contempt for not doing his visitation if it is only a suggestion to the fact that his rights are there? That makes no sense to me. If a judge is looking for the best interest of my child that would be stability and not having someone just "have" his rights. That's ridiculous, because I am the only one parenting here. I am the only one that is raising this child, but because he has "rights" that he does not use I have to bow down and send my child with someone that doesn't even ask about him or try to see him? That doesn't make sense to me.
I also get no support so there's really no way that could be affected. He sees him when he wants, and he helps me support him when he wants. My son doesn't know who he is. Pictures and video only do so much. Giving his father less time would not be slighting my child as I have begged him to spend time with him and talk to him and he is not interested unless other people will see. It would make his life more stable by giving him something he can do since he is "too busy" for the plan we currently have.

