My question involves criminal law for the state of: Illinois, in Champaign County.
I'll be blunt with this. My husband did indeed push my mother onto her bum when she got within four inches of his body while he was irate. His hands only touched her shoulders, and he did not push hard, but she let her body fall. I know what a push is, and I know how to fake a fall. But she isn't going to be in court anyways.
(This started because she lied to us, saying she would get an apartment with us and she backed out with only 6 days left to remove our items from the house. She has been given an extension on removing her items, but we removed our belongings and refuse to get anything else from the house. No one was legally evicted either.)
The cops did try to ask me half a dozen times if he pushed me, when in reality I kept saying no, that I was holding him and trying to keep my husband still. If he did push me off of him, that is -my- fault for grabbing and holding him, so already there is an issue in the case and report. But my husband did say he pushed me off of him, so they may have added it to his charges. While he was taken to CCCC, I was transported to the ER against my will because I had sliced open my arm with a broken plate in order to kill myself. I had literally lost all sense of reality by that point and felt no reason to live without my husband.
He did break some plates, pictures and furniture, but all of it can be fixed or is worthless and can be thrown away, but my mother is a hoarder and made a list of the items. My Step-Grandfather, who own her home, tried to press charges for her broken items, and the officer was going to issue a ticket rather than report it to the court to be added to the case. I had them call my mother and the ticket was ripped up, but I have no idea if the issue of broken junk is being added to the court case.
My husband is set for pretrial and his Public defender isn't able to speak with him until the day before the court case.
He is worried, I am worried and having severe panic attacks, because I am unable to get the medication I need to prevent them. He just recently got a job, and I don't want him going to jail and losing his job over this, because I more than likely will kill myself if he does. I am suicidal, I have severe depression, severe anxiety attacks and apparently from the ER paperwork, an adjustment disorder.
This is his first ever offense. He has followed all court procedure and has worked hard to not only get our stuff removed from the premises of the house with a police escort, but he has refrained from all contact with my mother as per the court orders on all his paperwork. I have even refused to give him any papers my mom has handed me and any messages she tried to push back and forth through me due to indirect contact issues that might arise.
From what I know, he could be just let go, or if things go wrong he could spend 364 days in jail. I don't want to lose my husband for that long.
My mother and her Step-Father had a relationship that was sexual when she was in High school that was never reported, and she has had multiple run ins with the law, including a Domestic disturbance, where she was trying to kill me in a drunken state, which was one of many. Honestly every time she has gotten drunk like that I should have called the cops on her, but I was told by everyone around me that I shouldn't do something like that to my mother, that I should love, honor and respect her, when she had her heroine addicted boyfriend molest me at the age of 12 to try and teach me how to have sex. Another unreported incident that I had to stay quiet about. I'm sick of being quiet about all their issues and the fact that they have made me into a literal mess of a human being over the last 26 years of my life, and now their trying to take away the only good thing that has ever happened to me.
I need some solid advice to get my husband out of this mess that they have put him in. He is a very calm, collect individual that likes playing RPG video games like Zelda. He's never violent by any means, and honestly was only upset during this incident because I came in and freaked out. The only time he gets even remotly defensive is when it comes to my safety and well being.

