Sleeping Arrangements for Children

[FatherWhoWon]

Awww...

It's getting really sappy 'round here

[Dogmatique]

Awww...

It's getting really sappy 'round here

*sniffle* it is a bit, yeah.

OP, DadWhoWon and I are basically trying to get across to you that there's nothing illegal or even necessarily "wrong" with the sleeping arrangements.

It's a parenting difference.

[Mr. Knowitall]

I can't say it was the comfiest situation, but it's one of my most cherished childhood memories.

[Dogmatique]

Oh my dear .... I was having such an absolutely lousy day. Now I have the biggest smile on my face.

Bless you!

[Francesca Premo]

If it was Grandma I would not be complaining. I was raised by my Grandmother and believe every child should be close to theirs. Sadly Grandma passed away a few years ago and Dad crashes at Great Grandma's so she can watch his children. Yes I was the smart (kind of) one. We had a very short term relationship because I saw he was not a good father and then learned I was pregnant. As for the court cases, and calling cps...I called one time, and he has been reported by the school on numerous occasions. It's not like I hate my son's father, or expect him to change just because I think what he is doing is wrong. I have heard through a friend that it was illegal for her mother to be in the same bed with her son, so I came on here simply to find out if that were true. I know that dad is allowed to do whatever he wants with his visits, it will ultimately be his loss in the end, although there are some pretty big safety concerns when it comes to sending our children.

[Dogmatique]

Whoever told you it was illegal for any adult to be sleeping in the same bed as your mutual child, perhaps needs the clue by four.

Not, it's NOT illegal. Good grief. I'm not LEGALLY or BLOOD related to ANY of my grandchildren - and neither would any of my siblings be related - but if those kiddies needed comfort, or somewhere to sleep? Of course we'd accommodate them.

Honestly Francesca, Dad's not the one with the problem here...unless you make it a problem and start forcing your beliefs and thoughts onto the children.

THAT'S a danger.

[Francesca Premo]

Yes because me asking if it is illegal is a problem. My friend says when her son was 3 her ex husband reported her for her mother sharing a bed on visits, and that cps told her she could lose custody or provide their child with a bed. All I did was check into it...I don't see how that is a problem. I'm a very good mother and would never ask this in front of or around my son. I wouldn't sleep with my Great Aunt, but that's me.

[SearchingForTruth87]

Yes because me asking if it is illegal is a problem. My friend says when her son was 3 her ex husband reported her for her mother sharing a bed on visits, and that cps told her she could lose custody or provide their child with a bed. All I did was check into it...I don't see how that is a problem. I'm a very good mother and would never ask this in front of or around my son. I wouldn't sleep with my Great Aunt, but that's me.

Sleeping or not sleeping with the Great Aunt or Grandma would be considered a parenting difference, yes, but I feel the mother is growing concerned looking at a bigger picture here. She isn't just seeing her kid hop in with Grandma every once in a while, she is seeing a situation where her child's father can't even put in enough effort to make sure all of his children have slightly comfortable sleeping accommodations and that they aren't piled on top of each other in urine-soaked sheets. I can understand being concerned and irritated. He won't even take the easy, free bed to help out his kid. If this isn't an isolated incident, if the child comes back with multiple injuries occurring most every visit, is it wrong to wonder what is going on over there that is allowing the child to get into situations that are causing physical injury? Your "Mom Radar" goes off and all you want to do is make sure your kid is safe with their dad. But you're damned if you try to talk to someone about your concerns, or report things. That makes you look like a problem parent. You're damned if you let your concerns go and your worst fears come true: the problems snowball and something horrible happens to your son, only you were a bad mother by not reporting every incident that occurred because you thought you were being overly paranoid or what have you. To me, she sounds like a mom just trying to figure out if her fears are valid. I completely empathize. No need to be harsh with her.

[Dogmatique]

OP is long gone - please don't necropost.