My question involves a marriage in the state of: New York
Hello,
My mother has been in abusive marriage for about 25 yrs, and after a recent incident she is finally ready to get a divorce and leave the house.
We have been trying to find a lawyer to help us with the legal matters but it seems very tricky and expensive. We spoke to one lawyer who basically said that she could only get an uncontested divorce, because a contentested one would cost her to much money. However to get an uncontested divorce we would have to go meet with my father and get him to agree to a bunch of things, and I do not see any way in which this would be possible.
I think my mother would be ok just leaving him and living somewhere else, with my (15 yr) brother. However there is the issue of finances. If he keeps raking up debt, then I think by NYS law half of that debt is hers.
Is there anyway to get financialy seperated from him without going through divorce proceddings?

