My question involves a marriage in the state of: Virginia
Within the past few weeks my wife and I decided to separate, three minor children involved. We both want a swift process and she’s agreed to move out of the apartment when financially stable. I recently found out about an affair that’s been going on for months due to an app installed on her phone I was using for parental monitoring of the children who also use her cell (she does not know this). I know those conversations would probably be inadmissible, I have very little circumstantial evidence, and no direct evidence. I’m confident she’d admit to it, but I’m sure that wouldn’t help considering privileged conversations. We agreed to seek counsel together for a mutual agreement/divorce, so I haven’t yet done so on my own. My only interest in proving the adultery is for alimony and custody purposes should the situation go south.
Should I get her to admit to it, and is it worth trying to prove adultery?

