It sounds like he got lucky this time. Next time (and there almost always is a next time), you may not be so lucky as to only get a split lip.
Good luck.
- Carl
It sounds like he got lucky this time. Next time (and there almost always is a next time), you may not be so lucky as to only get a split lip.
Good luck.
- Carl
I've been looking and can't find any statistics on no violence in a marriage for 14 years and then suddenly hitting happens. Do you have any links for me to look at. Almost always a next time, why? I'm not being flippant I just want to know. It's never happened before suddenly my 37 year old husband is abusive? Did I miss something? And yes it was very serious I agree I just have been treated like a child (with no brain and no sense) through this process and I'm quite tired of it. The advocate yesterday told me I would get a supeona (sp) and I responded well they would have to serve me and she said it was a crime to avoid it. I don't like being talked to like that. I must also say, I've never been involved in the legal process before, but geez it's certainly seems like "if yougot money we can make it go away place" but perhaps I'm wrong. Thanks for your polite reply by the way. Just to let you know (yes I know this can go over all boundaries race money etc) we are both college graduates, employed, never had problems with the law - it's a strange odd thing that happened.
There are a number of ways to be served a subpoena and they don't all involve someone handing you apiece of paper. if you are lawfully served, you must appear or risk arrest.
As for the statistics, there are stats all over the internet from a wide variety of sources. There a number of good books out there on the subject as well. Obviously I don't know the history between you two, but, statistically speaking DV does not occur in a bubble and tends to recur. if it begins suddenly it could be due to outside stresses, alcohol, drugs, guilt, ad nauseum.
I am still curious as to how a credit card went flying with sufficient force to cut your lip. I doubt the police or the court will buy that one, too. If that is the statement you intend to give, don't count on anyone buying it.
For your sake (and the sake of any children) I hope that thi swas an isolated incident and that your relationship is not fractious. History and experience, however, has left me cynical about this.
- Carl
oh don't burn me for this but the cut wasn't that bad and suddenly they (police) have lost the photos of it, it was a cut i took my own pictures(*I'm not stupid) I do have a question though perhaps should be in a different forum why does everyone talk to me like I don't have a brain? The first judge called it mutual argument I do not know what that means.
Carl,
If i avoid sup issue can i be arrested that's what the lady said.