PLEASE any feedback or help is greatly appreciated!!!
My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Virginia
I am the father in this case. I've raised my kids since they were born. Their mother and I got divorced when they were 1 and 2. I moved out of state 7 hrs away for work yet still continued to travel to and from their mother's 7 hrs away and back because she refused to drive. They were often sick when I got them and I spent most of the time taking them to doctor's appointments. Since we separated, we've split 50/50 time with them but I did all the traveling, doctor's appointments etc. I tried to file for custody in my State but no attorney wanted to deal with it so I filed on my own. The summons was never delivered to her and she filed in Virginia against me when it came time for them to start school. For 3 years she told me she was going to take them from me when they we old enough to go to school, put them in private school and make me pay for their tuition and I would only be able to see them when she allows it.
When she filed in Virginia, I found an attorney in Virginia to help represent me. I completed all the paperwork for the discovery and we went over everything to prove why they needed to reside with me. When we went to court, my ex wife lied about their health, about traveling to get them and several other things yet my attorney just sat there and would not interject. My mother was crying because she couldn't believe all the lies. Her attorney and the GAL were chatting in the hallway during the break in court about going to lunch together and other social things they do together. When we went back into court, the GAL told the judge that he believes it will be in the best interest of the children to reside with her. My attorney did nothing. The judge gave us 3 months to work out a visitation schedule but in the mean time the boys would stay with her to start school and she had to meet me half way to exchange the boys for visitation.
I created one on a calendar and emailed it to her. She didn't agree. But she still went along with the calendar until the day before our next court date. She called me and said she was not going to agree to it and that she didn't want to do anymore driving. That night I emailed my attorney my concerns about the last court date and his lack of fight for me in court when he knew she was lying. When I went to court the next day, the same judge, GAL and her attorney said at the same time, you are not going to get 90 days out of the year for visitation. This meant she would get full custody and I would have to pay child support which I have no problem paying. The judge made it clear to her that I was not responsible for paying for private school but only to help pay for after school. However, her attorney and her told the judge that the cost of after school was the amount of tuition for private school. Since I will be getting them for the summer, I submitted the cost of summer day camp. Her attorney said it was too high and the judge ordered me to pay all but 10% of after school costs.
Before court was over, her attorney was calling her family and laughing and joking with them on the phone and with the GAL. When I left the court room I pulled up the private school's tuition on my cell phone and she lied about the cost of after school. The cost they told the judge is the cost for private school tuition and after school costs were only 5% of what they said. Then her attorney made me sign a Consent Order. I pulled my attorney to the side and told him about the cost of tuition. He said for me to email him the proof and he will file for an appeal the next day.
The next day (today) her attorney emailed a copy of the consent order that I signed with an added note on the side that was not there when I signed. The note written on the side said that I agree to not file for an appeal. So now my attorney doesn't want to file for an appeal even though he has proof of them lying about the after school care costs and that the original consent order did not have that side note on it about the appeal. I can't get an attorney to help me....
The entire case was biased because the GAL was obviously friends with my ex's attorney, my ex and her attorney committed perjury in court and my attorney didn't do anything to help me.... what course should I take? How can I hold her attorney and my attorney for their actions or lack there of? I am submitting a request for an appeal on my own but her attorney will show the courts that side note she added....what are my rights and how can I get help? All of this is only hurting our children.... they've gone from spending all this time with me to not being able to see me, at times, for months. She is always dropping them off at my mom's house too because she likes to party all the time. She often asks me to get them earlier than planned and I've never had a problem. I spent 3 years traveling 7 hrs there and 7 hrs back to ensure my children were able to see their father....she doesn't care at all. This is so crazy