Hi and thanks for your advice.
I really never suspected that she had ulterior motives but if I had to pick something then the timing of her older son was the only thing I might have thought unusual.
The real problems arise from some fairly intense personality conflicts and some heavy baggage left over from her previous marriage. I saw this start to show before she came over here and me being the easygoing guy thought that she was just nervous and everything would work out fine...When in reality it became more intense.
I completely understand and accept that she has come from a different culture, different language, and a different upbringing....That doesn't even count the gender differences. She can be very playful and loving yet switch in a moment to a very controlling and competitive person. Don't get me wrong....I was not looking for a "yes sir" stay at home wife.
If I went to another country to live....I would want to know how to say things the right way (she speaks British English, taught to her by Romanians and Russians!..Oh and she is Moldovan)...I would want to know about customs, proper ways to do things in life..how to fit in to my culture at least a bit....but that is not the case here. Almost every time I try to explain how something is done here or the correct way to say something it starts an argument about how I don't know my own language or the procedure that I am showing her must be wrong because that is not the way she did it in her country. Then of course there is the fear of how her ex treated her and that affects many parts of our life.
I am sorry but I am rambling.....
So the jury is still out on what I am going to do but...I am still curious if her son could finish out his Senior year if I stopped the process now.
Thanks again!
Regards,
C

