My question involves a child custody case from the State of: KY
I need some serious help on this problem!
Since I have had my baby, my husband had been visiting him (at his own disgression) in my home. I allowed this, even though I was annoyed by the fact that he was coming by very frequently. I was looking forward to getting an actual custody order because, being divorced, I didn't really want to see him every day and I was looking forward to settling the matter in general.
So we went to mediation recently. I learned that the interlocatory decree came through to say we are officially divorced now. In mediation, we worked out an agreement. I agreed to give him visitation from Friday at 6 p.m. to Saturday at noon weekly. However, in order to do this, he agreed he would buy me a breast pump. The baby has NOT been introduced to a bottle yet and I have not even used a pump yet. The child is a month old.
His visitation is to occur starting this coming friday. He texted me yesterday, not asking, but telling me he was coming over to see the baby. I texted my lawyer and asked her what I should say to him and she said, "Just say you are sticking to the mediation agreement." So that is what I told him. He texted me later that day to say he will only buy me the pump if I continue to allow him to come over on a daily basis. I told him I'm in no way obligated to do this, that I already gave him his time in a defined order, and he agreed in front of two lawyers and a mediator to buy me a pump. He said he wouldn't unless I continued to allow him to come over at his own disgression.
This is incredibly disturbing to me because he is blackmailing me and endangering the child. Without a pump, I either have to send my child off to starve (which I would never do) or be held in contempt for not sending him on his visitation. I texted my lawyer to inform her of the situation. Just on a personal note, I can't believe he would be so selfish as to gamble with our son's health.
It will ALREADY be difficult as it is to learn to pump and introduce the baby to the bottle by friday and make sure he actually takes it. I am pretty much scared to death now. I feel like it would be very irresponsible to send him with my ex husband acting this way and if I don't get this worked out pretty much by tomorrow, there is no way I can pump enough milk and make sure the baby takes to a bottle in time.
This whole conversation was in texts. My lawyer told me she would discuss things with his lawyer and we also have the texts as proof.
My question is, do I have any immediate legal recourse? Is there anyway to stop the visitation Friday? Is this custodial interference on his part? Can I press charges for blackmail? I'm hoping this can be solved just by my lawyer talking to his lawyer, but my husband is so difficult. Once he has decided, that is it. So I want to know what my options are. I just want to make sure my son is fed if he is to go on a visit.

