You might call it pessimism, we call it realism. We deal with this stuff every day. While hope is great - and it springs eternal - giving false hope is not a good thing. And any REAL attempt to revisit the issue with an attorney is likely to cost at the low end about $2-3,000 just to get a coin toss with the judge. But, if money is no object, heck, try anything.
When I have seen these orders altered it is often because the protected party does not oppose the change in the order or actively supports it. Even then, the judge is more likely to modify from NO contact to PEACEFUL contact rather than remove it entirely.
The problem the OP has is that he had his day in court, and he CHOSE not to appear. The court may not be too keen on the expense of a new hearing when the original one should have been just fine.

