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    Default Re: Lifting a DV-130 (Order of Protection) in California

    Were you served?

    Make a motion to vacate. State your claims there. See what happens. Get an attorney for this.
    Avoid the woman at all costs from then on.

    I've continually found that emotionally unstable women are the ones who go to file at the drop of a threat.
    It's often that vindictive ex-girlfriends go and do this stuff.
    Some women just want a chance at being vindictive to their boyfriends, because they're holding a grudge.
    Some of these women are man-haters.


    Here is what you need to do:
    Gather the evidence during which you said you would paralyze her and meant that you weren't and that you were sorry.
    Discuss the fact that you two were in the relationship for six years.
    Gather witnesses to describe the character of the relationship and whether or not it was turbulent or you two got along really well.
    If you have evidence of when you two broke up, and it was shortly before she filed the restraining order, collect and use it.
    If you know who some of her ex-boyfriends are, talk to them and see if they can be character witnesses to her vindictive behavior and emotional instability.
    If she was on medication and you can use a witness or evidence to prove that, use it to prove mental instability.

    Oh, and hire an attorney.

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    Default Re: Lifting a DV-130 (Order of Protection) in California

    If it was issued for two years, then proof of service was provided to the court. he also admits to NOT attending the hearing ... ouch for him.

    Most courts are not going to entertain a motion to vacate the order without something new. he had his chance to contest the order, but chose not to go.

    But, yes, he can pay a lot of money for an attorney to file this and that, and maybe even get a new hearing. But, the odds of it being reversed is slim.

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    My view from dealing with this is stuff is "try anyway." See where it goes.
    But I really suggest the original poster find some good evidence before trying.
    Because otherwise, it seems a little silly to have nothing good to argue with and then show up.

    Unless the judge bars the original poster from talking about things or the petitioner tries to suppress/quash, he could attempt to talk his views regardless of new evidence. But if he loses that round, he'll have to wait and try later with something much better.

    Also, I keep getting this feeling from aardvarc and cdwjava that you two hold a pessimistic feel to a lot of this stuff.

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    You might call it pessimism, we call it realism. We deal with this stuff every day. While hope is great - and it springs eternal - giving false hope is not a good thing. And any REAL attempt to revisit the issue with an attorney is likely to cost at the low end about $2-3,000 just to get a coin toss with the judge. But, if money is no object, heck, try anything.

    When I have seen these orders altered it is often because the protected party does not oppose the change in the order or actively supports it. Even then, the judge is more likely to modify from NO contact to PEACEFUL contact rather than remove it entirely.

    The problem the OP has is that he had his day in court, and he CHOSE not to appear. The court may not be too keen on the expense of a new hearing when the original one should have been just fine.

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    Default Re: Lifting a DV-130 (Order of Protection) in California

    Well, the issue has to do with filing of the motion to vacate. It wouldn't be good enough to state "I wasn't sure what to do. But now I am." And then turn it into the circuit clerk with the hope that they'll take you serious.

    The original poster has already stated belief for the individual being mentally unstable. A month is quite some time to give a person to cool off from one single threat, especially when the relationship lasted six years. I suspect he has some reasoning as to why it would take that long for her to cool off. And if it's because he understands she can be an unstable person, all he has to do is prove that with evidence/witnesses.
    MOTION TO VACATE
    I wasn't sure what to do. But now I am.

    X regank33
    Not a good approach.

    Man, a lot of this stuff is easy second-semester college English. Basic argumentation. But the legalese is where stuff matters.

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    Default Re: Lifting a DV-130 (Order of Protection) in California

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    The original poster has already stated belief for the individual being mentally unstable.
    We hear that every day about the ex ... absent some sort of clinical determination that might also include a tendency to enter into flights of fancy and lies, the fact that an ex says their former partner is mentally unstable will elicit little more than a yawn from the court.

    A month is quite some time to give a person to cool off from one single threat, especially when the relationship lasted six years. I suspect he has some reasoning as to why it would take that long for her to cool off. And if it's because he understands she can be an unstable person, all he has to do is prove that with evidence/witnesses.
    He had that chance ... he did not attend the hearing. And unless his witnesses include a qualified psychologist and that the medical determination shows a proclivity towards making stuff up, why should it be given any weight now?

    Yes, it is possible that the OP lives in a location where the courts have time on their hands to revisit these matters. But, in most parts of this state right now, that just ain't the case. He MIGHT get a hearing in a few months ... maybe ... if the court is open to hear it without anything new. I doubt it will be, but, ya never know.

    It doesn't hurt him to try if he has the money. But, a real effort with an attorney is going to be costly. A local family law attorney might be able to give him some idea of how much of a chance he has to get before a judge without any new evidence, and how likely a local court might be in modifying the order. Most consultations are free .. it is the effort that will be costly.

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    Well, yes, probabilities are a big factor. That's why I say it's pessimistic to give a hasty generalization. The realism comes in with a social science descriptor (statistics on past events) rather than anecdotal experience. Even then, anecdotal experience from a single attorney is not worthwhile, thus giving more reason to talk to multiple attorneys rather than one to obtain a general ideal as to what the probability of getting a hearing is. I used to be very much into the social sciences and humanities. Given the ability to look at the historical aspects of past cases and to review what has been allowed to deem a hearing from a motion to vacate, one can get insight as to how to approach a motion to vacate. At that point, the person is gaming the system. Seems like some attorneys have a grasp on the research involved to compute knowledge on what works and what does not.

    So, my view of realism comes from knowledge of rhetoric, statistics, barriers to entry, and the linguistics involved to allow the bivariant acceptance to have a hearing. I'm different, though, because I have a Ph.D level IQ.

    The original poster seems to be an engineer. All he has to do is treat it as an engineering problem. That will take time, but it's not impossible.

    One aspect is that he could get a hearing, make a motion to suppress evidence of the ex-gf and claim (right?) she hasn't laid foundation to prove it was him. It depends on how volatile the evidence is/was. So, he could just put in the motion to vacate that false allegations occurred. I feel as though with saying this that perhaps this is going in the unethical advice section. If it were a cell phone, perhaps the message were deleted. Furthermore, with the calculus (rate of change) by which people get new cell phones, it's possible that if it were a cell phone message, the message was erased, deleted, and/or a new cell phone was obtained. This would also be dependent on how much time has passed. A little investigation would help in this point. Were it an Internet message, there would still be the need to show that it was him.

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