My question involves child support in the State of: California
My ex-wife and I have a mediated divorce. We agreed over the financial part of the mediated agreement, but the vacation time with the kids needs to be fixed from my point of view. (I don't have ANY vacation time for example and the holiday schedule favors my ex-wife since it is with whoever just happens to have custody on that day.)
When we divorced my ex-wife was working 100% time. Last month she dropped down to 75% time and asked the mediator for a recalculation of support. The mediator did the recalculation and sent me an e-mail. I don't think this change has been registered with the court. My ex-wife is asking me to pay the higher amount, but isn't budging on vacation time which I asked to be reconsidered.
So here are my questions.
#1) Legally when does the re-calculated amount take effect.
#2) When should I pay the higher amount? Should I do it when the mediator send the new amount by e-mail. Does it need to be filed with the court?
#3) I want to re-negotiate the vacation schedule.
(I don't have a single chistmas with them until 2015.)
(Thanksgiving will never be more than a 50% day, since that is a transfer day)
(4th of July doesn't happen to be with me until after 2018.)
(I have no formal one week vacation. My ex-wife said we could do this informally, but when I asked her to keep a week open during the summer she schedule camps over the best time for my vacation. While she flew the kids across the country for a vacation with her family).
Advice on how to deal with this. I feel like I'm being walked all over in this situation and what the know the best way to proceed.

