My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Wa
First i didnt know what spot to write this in. ive posted here a few times with different issues. First we have no parenting plan and i dont want one right now. My sons father has made no attempt for visits what so ever since the first of April this year. Has made maybe 3-4 phone calls between april and the end of Aug but in Sept our son told his bio-father he did not want to talk to him or see him so Bio-dad told me he would "stay away" via text short and simple no fuss. My husband has helped me raise our son since he was 18 mths old and he is now 8. My son wants to be adopted and it has been talked about and even he has begged us to change his name. He refuses to talk to his dad on the phone, or see him at all. Does not want to have anything to do with him. For reason that have been long going but nothing that would really hold up in court aside from possible abandonment. I havent been able to research a specific law on how this works. or if there is a time limit. Bio-dad has text me, not asking to speak with our son but talking to me about things so i dont know if that constitutes for contact or not. One week ago bio-dad (out of no where) told me to do what i have to as far as getting paper work together so my husband can adopt our son and he wouldnt fight it. We never talked to him about this, it came from him first. However this afternoon..via text always... told me he changed his mind and even if he doesnt see our son for yrs he doesnt want to go thru with this. He pays support, rarely on time and just recently we got almost an entire check of his due to him being so far behind but i dont care and neither does our son. We want this adoption and i dont think its fair for my son to have to live like this even tho he doesnt want any thing to do with his bio-dad and may not for years. I understand the ex wanting him to someday contact him again but even with an adoption i would never hold my son back from doing that and my ex knows that as well as my son. I dont quite know what to do and i dont want to hire an attorney if there is nothing i can do. Is there a time limit for contact before i can take this to court? Im scared to do any parenting plan at all, as it stands i can move to another country if i wanted to. We have no strings attached to the ex and i dont want any if i can get away with it. I have all of our conversations saved on my phone, he refuses to ever call its all thru text i dont know if that matters. Sorry for the crazy grammar, typing with a baby in my lap