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hopping, I'm confused about what Missy said that was untrue/disagreeable. Maybe you misread?

"Dad would probably have a hard time finding an attorney to take a custody modification case in this situation."

Uhm, so long as father has money and desire, this isn't accurate.

As for original poster, I suspect that while you may have sole physical custody, you don't have sole legal custody (as in, the father has no rights to decision-making related to kids' lives or anything other than visitation).

"Once custody is initially determined it is very very difficult to change."

As a blanket statement, this isn't accurate.

"Just because one parent's situation changed (which happens all the time) doesn't mean they get custody. "

That's essentially what Missy pointed out though.
OP stated that she does have sole physical/legal

Any decent attorney would not take a custody modification case based on a move by one parent. Sure you can throw your money at an idiot trying to get what the law doesn't support, if you do that, you're an idiot and so it the attorney that does it. My ex tried this, with a knowledgable attorney, and even though my ex is very legally aggressive and unreasonable and wanted a custody modification, his attorney talked him into a parenting time modification case. Much much much easier to do. Custody modification does not equal parenting time modification. I am not sure that you actually see the difference here. There is a gigantic difference.

Custody is very hard to change. There are specific circumstances (abuse, neglect, otherwise unfit parenting) in which you can get it changed or the parents can jointly agree to change custody (but again, if there is not a basis for this, sometimes the court won't allow it.) Blanket statement or not that remains accurate.