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burka
Since then, I have had another name problem.
Husband and I agreed on a first and middle name for baby. The baby is seriously expected to come any day now. However, obviously, the agreed-upon name is not the child's legal name yet. Plenty of parents change their kids names several times before they are born.
The agreed-upon middle name is not working out for me. We both agreed we'll call our child by the first name. However, he and his family are referring to the child by a nickname version of the middle name (which would make the name they are calling the child not any agreed-upon name). To avoid the child having an identity crisis, I feel like the best way to avoid trouble is to come up with a new middle name.
I approached him with this issue to talk about a new middle name. He says I cannot change our agreed-upon name. I tried to say, "Yes, I can, it's not his legal name yet. I am the mother and I don't have to agree to call the child anything I don't want to." However, he just repeats the same thing over and over no matter what I say which is "You can't do that."
I'm not even sure this is a legal question or not. I guess I just want confirmation that I am not obligated to name my child something I don't want to. And I want to know, once again, if I write down a new middle name on the birth certificate at birth, if he has a chance of changing the middle name based on me verbally agreeing to a different one that I no longer like 5 months ago.