My question involves adoption law for the State of: I have a 4 year old daughter whom was born out of wedlock, since she was born i have no knowledge of the fathers whereabouts and my daughter has my last name. I have been married for one year now with my new husband whom wants to adopt my 4 year old and wants his last name to be hers as well. What can i do or where do i start. i dont want the father to be contacted because i feel he might refuse.