you ought to have discussed with counsel when ye got the divorce.
Attorney said it was a fair deal, but no provisions were put in the decree for my retirement (not good lawyer I guess).

I'm wondering if whether you reach full SS retirement age whether her claiming against your work record instead of her own wouldn't get her more money every month from the SS (I presume she was married to you for 10 years or more).
It offsets her long term dis. so she doesn't take it.