My question involves restraining orders in the State of: Washington, years back in 2001, my ex wife and I got into an argument, we have had many over the couple of years we were together, she was pregnant at the time this happened, I honestly do not know what the argument was over, but in the end I left the house to cool off take a drive and suddenly when I got back she was on the phone with this smirk on her face.
I asked who she was talking to she hung up the phone and made her way to the living room, next thing I know I have four police man at the house, The officers asked what the problem was she stated that she wanted them to come talk to me because I was angry.
The officer stated that they are not on duty to be a therapist, and they didnt quite understand why she had called, two officers took me outside and began to question me I explained everything that had happened, suddenly she was yelling at an officer and he told her if she continued acting out she would be the one who went to jail.
She suddenly calmed down I left to a neighbors house for the night, the next day she goes down to the court house files a temp restraining order and a hearing is set.
I went to the hearing and of course the ex being pregnant got awarded the order of restraints, I still have the paper work and her statement was said she called the cops because I had slapped her up and down, and slammed her against a wall, yet when the police came out there they would NOT arrest me because ALL I did was slap her face and slam her against the wall.
I am sorry but in the state of washington if you look at a woman funny you will be in jail for it, especially a pregnant woman, they did not arrest me because no crimes where committed yet the judge in Tacoma gave her a perm restraining order based on what she said... in other words I have not seen my children in more than ten years because of this and this has been killing me I have actually had to move from Washington to California because she kept coming around and I didnt want to get into trouble
and even so after all of that in court she has sent me letters inviting me to visit with the kids for birthdays and I have visited twice to be honest, she has also sent me letters talking about what a great father I am etc.. all of which I kept for my own records.
The reality here is I do not know what I can do about this but I figure its well over due that I clear my name she has also moved out of washington to Idaho and I now live in California, so another question I have is where do I file?

