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  1. #1
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    Default Pending Green Card Application - Wife Not Sure What She Wants

    Hello everyone. I found myself in an extremely difficult situation and I'd like to share it looking for the best possible solutions.

    My story in short:

    I entered a country with J1 status to be an inter for 12 months. I've met a US citizen girl there and we both fell in love, and dated for 10 months, until I had a few weeks left to leave the country. We came to the common decision that getting married would be the easiest way to stay together and share our life.*
    So I've moved in to her place and we had a nice little wedding with all her family based on good faith. We have gathered all the evidences of our shared life and bonafide marriage including joint bank account statements, photos, affidavits from family members etc. and filed for greencard.
    Our applications got accepted, current status is pending, just got done with the biometrics a week ago.
    However our relationship became terrible. My wife's actions and thoughts made me finally realize that she suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We can't really agree over any topic, I can't rely on her support with car, she became extremely abusive to me psychologically and very manipulative. I've found evidences of her actions of infidelity, confronted her and she denied everything. I have tried everything to make her happy again, but nothing semmed to work. She still seems like she is trying to hold on to our relationship and not being able to let me go. According to my researches, this is part of the mental disorder.
    I tried talking to my wife about the next step, the interview and if she still wants me in her life, and she couldn't come up with answers. When she was angry at times, she was saying that I can never use her car again, that she doesn't want to come to the interview, that she can't wait for me to get deported.
    I honestly feel like that I can't depend on her, she is changing her mind every time, not sure what she wants. And on the other hand, I can't just wait for the interview date, not being sure if she will show up with me.
    I can't afford to get deported and banned from the country because of our bad relationship.
    I contacted an immigration expert then, who I'm going to see soon. I believe the only legal way to fix my situation would be the I-360 WAVA Application.*
    I can prove with our previous application and her family's word that we did have a bonafide marriage in good faith. I can also prove my good moral character. I can prove my wife's difficult behavior with written affidavits by her family members. Her stepmother also told me she was a pathological liar. I am also thinking about going to therapy and explaining my feelings about our relationship and get written proof of past depression and psychological abuse that happened.
    I am not saying that our bad relationship is only her fault, I know it takes two, but I can't afford to be banned and deported over this situation.
    I hope that I can get some advice in this topic.

    Thanks for your time!

  2. #2
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    Default Re: Pending Green Card Application - Wife Not Sure What She Wants

    You bring up the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), but make no mention of being the victim of domestic violence. What did you leave out?

    You were married how long ago?

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    Default Re: Pending Green Card Application - Wife Not Sure What She Wants

    Based on your assertions, you were not in a good faith marriage. If you had been, she would not have been running around on you.

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