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[Dogmatique]

"You arent understanding this." Steve IS on my birth certificate. I want his name off of it as "Chris" is my biological father per the paternity test. Wow!. I’m glad I came to this site. Then I get "What you want is not relevant, The LAW is relevant". What a bunch of a$$holes. You guys are giving advice and you can't even read and comprehend the situation. Thanks for nothing.

Would you like me to type slower, honey?

Okay, I'll try.

Because it is too late by state statute to challenge paternity; the ONLY way Chris can get on your birth certificate is if he adopts you as part of an adult adoption which would mean Mom & Steve are no longer your legal parents.

And Chris didn't have sex with your Mom?

What you want is not relevant. The LAW is relevant.

If you want to do away with Mom as well, go right ahead and see if Chris will do an adult adoption. That will make him your ONLY legal parent.

That's if it is even an option in the relevant state (it is not available in all states).


What IS it with ungrateful little brats this weekend? Is it a full moon or something?

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What IS it with ungrateful little brats this weekend? Is it a full moon or something?

A waning crescent moon but the Perseids are here.

[Dogmatique]

Interestingly, there is a Blue Moon this month. But it's not yet the full moon (obviously).


Oddly enough Uranus is retrograde. Funny, that.

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Darn it you're right!

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Darn it you're right!

well DUH!!!!


plus I have this little weather widget on my computer that tells me things like the moon phase. As to the Perseids; was out last night at 3 am watching them with the wife. She saw 10-15. I saw 3 really good ones and a few little ones.

[Dogmatique]

Awwwww that's so neat!

It's just about getting to be a bit dark here now. It'll be awhile, if we get to see anything at all.

But it's cool that you and your wife did

[LawResearcherMissy]

Steve IS on my birth certificate. I want his name off of it as "Chris" is my biological father per the paternity test.

Yes, we get that.

It does not change the legal reality, which is that it is - BY LAW - too late to contest Steve's paternity. The ONLY way to have Chris put on your birth certificate is through adult adoption (if it's even available in your state), and you cannot be adopted by Chris unless you sever LEGAL ties with both Steve AND your Mom. You cannot sever legal ties with only one of your legal parents, it has to be both.

Understand that if you sever legal ties with your parents via adult adoption, you are not entitled to receive any of their estate when they die, unless they specifically will it to you by name. That means if they die without a will, you get nothing and you don't have standing to petition the court to inherit. If you sever legal ties with your parents so Chris can be on your birth certificate and your Mom falls seriously ill, you will NOT have standing to visit her in the hospital. If she dies, you will not be notified as next of kin, because you won't be kin any more. Undertaking an adult adoption will render you a legal stranger to your Mom.

Do you understand the seriousness of this idea?

By all means, have a relationship with Chris. Change your last name to his if you want. But understand that having him on your birth certificate has some serious consequences for you that may not seem like a big deal now, but will be devastating as your Mom ages and eventually passes.

Having a hissy fit and squawking at the volunteers because you don't like the legally correct information you were given doesn't change the legal correctness of those answers. Feel free to pay an attorney to be told the same things we just told you. It's your money.