MY CASE = PROTECTIVE ORDER ( Hearing on July 30th 2012 )
Girlfriend's Claims: Scared to be around me and that I have been threatening her
Her Facts:
1.) she got all 4 of our teenagers to say that I have been mean to her, threatening and so on.
2.) Judge awarded the temporary restraining order ( until the actual hearing on the 30th of July) based upon the kid's testimonies of arguing and
threatening, and also because she went to the women's shelter 3 different times within the last year and documented the threats. Even though these allegations are just heresay, the judge allowed the temporary restraining order it via a "preponderance" of evidence. This is the way a woman can "thread the needle" technically, to get a man put out of the house without and actual documented crime or harm. It's VERY UNFAIR.
My Facts:
1.) She did NOT get me thrown out because she was scared of me.She got me thrown out because I wanted my son to move out of the house because
I could not get him or any of my teenagers to mind, and because I wanted him out, she took revenge and got me put out through saying she was scared of me.
2.) I have a police report where I called them out 13 times in one year to prevent the violence and escalation. Of the 13 times they were called out, there was NEVER enough violence or anything to document in ANY report.
3.) I have a time-stamped text message that I sent to everyone in the family ( 9 days before I got put out) telling them that we need to be more peaceful and loving to each other and they all ignored it.
FINAL NOTES: Nobody EVER hit anyone ........NO CRIMINAL CHARGES FILED. NOW IM FACING EVICTION on the 30th. So my question is:
*****Do I play OFFENSE OR DEFENSE? to the court to counter her allegations of my character? I have tons of iphone videos of her slandering me and screaming at the top of her lungs and threatening me as well as many voice recordings on the phone of her slander, harassment, and violent temper tantrums. I HOPE THESE WOULD BE ADMISSABLE...but again... I dont know whether to play offense or DEFENSE..............I want back in the house and for us to go to counseling.
***** Or do I just go in there with the heart of Jesus and Do nothing? Am I shooting myself in the foot by showing the CHAOS no matter who is at fault?
***** IM NOT SURE IF SHE IS GOING TO BRING THE KIDS TO TESTIFY OR NOT. MY LAWYER ( CONSULTATION ONLY ) SAID IT IS VERY RARE THAT A WOMAN WOULD DRAG TEENAGERS INTO COURT TO TESTIFY I.E. THEY WOULD SCREW UP THE CASE FOR HER OR THAT ITS JUST PLAIN CRUEL TO DRAG THEM ANY FURTHER INTO IT. THIS WAS VERY UNUSUAL FOR ME TO HEAR THIS FROM AN ATTORNEY. THE REASON THATI MENTION HER DRAGGING THE KIDS INTO COURT IS BECAUSE IF THEY DO NOT SHOW THEN THEIR "WITNESSING" ON THE AFFIDAVIT BECOMES HERESAY / NOT RELEVENT TOWARDS A PREPONDERENCE OF EVIDENCE?
***** I do NOT want to get evicted and feel totally "ganged up on" by this mess. I feel like even if I show the judge the above video, and it proves her temperamental character ( along with everyone else in the house ), it will do nothing but freak the judge out and make her put someone out anyway VIA THE SOLE INTENT OF A PROTECTIVE ORDER IS TO KEEP PEOPLE SAFE. Please chime in with your thoughts. Thanks.![]()

