My question involves child abuse or neglect in the State of: Virginia
Hi. I'm 22 and no longer living with my parents but I feel that they are responsible for child neglect. I knew since I was 3-5 years old that there was something different about me (I'm transgender, transitioning from male to female now). I repeatedly asked my parents throughout my childhood years to please provide me a counselor so I could have someone to talk with about my issues and figure out what exactly was wrong. They never provided me one and I got the exact same answer every time, "You paying?". I have been asking since I was too young to have a job and pay it myself. I finally have a therapist now and am doing much better but I still feel that they need to learn a lesson and should have listened to their child when he/she was desperate for help.
From not having a counselor, I wasn't able to express my true self so as a result of that, I was a very angry and depressed person for many years. I caused trouble for everyone. I was in detention frequently in all schools I attended. I had no friends because I would get pissed easily. Even worse, I got sued not only once but three times by three different people for "harassment" but I pissed them off by saying negative things on the internet (dumb me). I finally was ordered by the judge to have counseling for my anger management but one year of counseling was not enough for me. I asked for more after I got off probation and was not provided one. Also I later found out that my mom cheated on my dad with her boss when I was a child. The whole family kept it as a secret from me because they thought just because I'm deaf, I'd never find out. That hurt me but I found out anyway. My sister was allowed to talk with my parents about her boyfriends, relationships, etc. I couldn't just because my parents didn't like the idea of me being with a man. I had to keep everything in me for years. My dad always has been so physically aggressive. Every time we argued, he'd slap my head with his full hand so hard that it felt like a punch and I ended up feeling shocked and "high" for a second every time but I don't have any evidence for this (expect I complained to the nurses at my first school and they called my parents with that concern for child abuse). My mom killed my outdoor dog (whose was my best friend) by driving over her accidentally but never got me another dog. She got another dog but it was an indoor dog and said it was her dog.
If I collect the behavioral records from all the schools I've attended to show their poor parenting skills, will I have enough evidence to charge them for child neglect?
My parents paid for my college the last two semesters but this upcoming semester will be the first semester they are refusing to pay. I'm aware that I'm not able to take them to court for college money (even that FAFSA says my education is relied on their income until I'm 24) but since my dad made it very clear in an email that my GID (Gender Identity Disorder which is listed as a mental disorder by the American Psychological Association) was the only reason they stopped paying. Since GID is a medical/mental condition, can I have them tried for discrimination too?
Sorry that this is long but any advice would be greatly appreciated.

